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houghchrst 07-23-2008 10:36 AM

Yeah you said he was right by his house, otherwise if it was someone you didn't know then I'd of had you call the police. I'd still have taken the keys though while he was snoozing just to keep him from driving off, then called the police. Wouldn't stand next to the car though and announce hey I got your keys if he wakes up. Nothing worse than an angry drunk. Just stand back and enjoy the perplexed search as he wakes and attempts to figure out where his keys are as the police are on their way. Then when they arrive I would give the keys to them and skedaddle. Gee is that how you spell that lol.

A nights entertainment though it is terribly sad.

Wiix 07-23-2008 11:21 AM

Yea Skeedaddle. :D ;)

These kinds of situations are difficult. Someone is ALWAYS the badguy. You just can't win. :o But if enough things like this happen and he has to pay the consequenses of his behaviour THEN and only then will he begin to think about the negative effect all this Boozing is causing. Something that touches him a a certain way will turn him around but we never know which thing that is until it happens. It could be something very minor but very basic.

SandyC 07-23-2008 12:37 PM

Not me, I would have walked by butt up to the door and calmly told them their loved one is in the car and can't wake up. Simple and to the point. I wouldn't offer that he's drunk or anything else. Just a simple nudge to go get their loved one. Many times once they realize someone else has seen the situation, they will work hard to rectify it.

If they ignored me, then I would have called 911 after I snatched the keys. I don't play with drunk drivers. Nope, not when someone could be killed. If they hate me, oh well, deal with it.

I honestly don't like to get into someone else's business but when it would affect others in a negative way I will. I guess growing up with alcoholics tainted me.

houghchrst 07-23-2008 12:38 PM

I don't know, how many times have you seen the guy pulled over for drunk driving, no license because it was taken away for drunk driving, some of these guys never learn.

Not long ago I watched a video of some police officers pulling over a guy only to find out he was another officer off duty and higher up the food chain and this was not his first time. He begged them to let him off, it took them over an hour and another commanding officer to make the decision to let him go. The low man on the totem pole didn't want to. But that's how it works.

houghchrst 07-23-2008 12:41 PM

That's true too Sandy, course you hope that next time he doesn't pull into the garage and pass out with the car running in the hopes that the neighbors don't see him.

Hard call. Everybody reacts differently, most will do nothing at all but whisper to their neighbors about it.

Wiix 07-23-2008 03:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by houghchrst (Post 329596)
I don't know, how many times have you seen the guy pulled over for drunk driving, no license because it was taken away for drunk driving, some of these guys never learn.

Not long ago I watched a video of some police officers pulling over a guy only to find out he was another officer off duty and higher up the food chain and this was not his first time. He begged them to let him off, it took them over an hour and another commanding officer to make the decision to let him go. The low man on the totem pole didn't want to. But that's how it works.

I saw that too. Cops shouldn't be above the law,they should know better than to drive after they have been drinking. I guess with cops it's not what you DO it's WHO you know. :mad:

houghchrst 07-23-2008 03:15 PM

Yeah well how many cops do you see sitting around the corner from the local bar lying in wait? NONE!! Never understood that. They could finance the entire police force on those tickets alone lol.

MelodyL 07-23-2008 04:31 PM

I have no way of knowing if this guy has ever been arrested for drunken driving, if he has ever driven drunk, etc.

I know the wife very well, but I just say hi and pass the time of day with the husband. He has had quadruple bypass surgery and almost died last year.

And obviously, that didn't teach him to stop drinking.

Neighbors talk about them sometimes. They feel bad because of the 9/11 thing. So no one will do anything about it. Obviously they CAN'T do anything about it because it's up to the person who drinks to get help right?

I can only imagine if I called the police, and 100 people on that block found out about it. Good Lord, I'd be the pariah of the whole neighborhood.

No, if it does happen again, I'll knock on the door and let them know. And if I have to I'll take the keys out of the ignition. That's a very good idea.

Melody

SandyC 07-23-2008 04:52 PM

I think that's best Melody. In a way, by knocking on their door you are saving his life and that of others and they should appreciate that. If it's the "block" like I lived on, in Chicago, I understand your concern over calling the cops. Just do what is in the best interest of the community by telling his wife and family.

BTW, what happened on 9/11 to them? Did they lose a family member or was it just too close for comfort? I remember how affected we were here in the Chicago area so I can only imagine how bad it seemed being so close to it. I had a firefighter friend who worked at the scene and he was never the same.

Wiix 07-23-2008 05:19 PM

Well, Hell YEA. Coming through successful heart surgery is a Great reason for an Alcholic to celebrate. :o He probably thinks his new found health will give him many more years of successful drinking. :( But once his liver goes, that's it.


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