Hi PrettyinPink, Glad to see you posting again!

I've yet to find this one-sided-ness that you are referring to??

How about Al-Anon? Did that work for you?

12-steps are outdated?

Cory, who's fooling who??

Hi Pretty in Pink!!
I know that AA and NA are not for everyone..you are not the 1st person to feel that way...I used to go thru periods of time when I did not feel they could help me...then life happens and I went back because after all of this time sober..I know I need them. Have you tried different meetings in other areas...I used to go to different towns...all of them are different but hey...they are people and people are different!! Some we will connect with...some we won't!
Please be careful Pretty in Pink.....I have went thru what you re talking about. Bottom line....an alcoholic is an alcoholic...and addcit is an addict ..I used to ponder whether I really was or not after I was sober for a while....thank God I never went back out there...I am the real McCoy....a real alcoholic...and I cannot and I will never be able to safely drink again...ever....because I am an alcoholic and if you are an alcoholic...or an addict...you will always be one...unfortunately it does not go away. We just learn how to live by learning to live without it...if you were an alcoholic/addict then you still are. If you are drinking socially you are playing with your life!!!! Maybe you should speak to a coucellor to try to figure out if you really have an issue with alcohol/drugs...and go from there. I have known many people who have been in your shoes as well that are no longer with us. Life is precious...you are worth it!!:hug:

Hi, and thanks for the reply. Did i forget to use the word over dramatic also when describing what only I feel alot of A.A is about. I do not feel like i
'm playin with fire.I respect your opion because it's your own, but i do not agree with it. Who told you once your alcoholic you’re always one? I wish people especially whn playin with there life would look into what they learn and see who and where people are getting there information and see when it's been updated. Statistics show 5% can turn back into social drinkers, and i learned that in A.A from more than one person.So what does that say? I was definitely an alcoholic before, from 14 to 25 i drank VERY heavenly and 100% i drank i got drunk. I am very knowledgeable on what an alcoholic is, my dad, 8 uncles and grandparents are one. I did switch one addiction to another and know i have to be very careful at times but one thing is i know when those times are. For instance i quit smoking weed now for a few weeks i am not going to quit drinking but i definitely not be picking up a drink for a 3-4 months because i do believe u can switch back if your not careful. I did have a few glasses of wine last nite but i cut myself off. I did not allow myself to go stir crazy in my head like " i need another drink". I guess i have that " its not that serious" attitude. I have been a social drinker now for 2 in a half years and i feel finebesides that fact that smoking weed is killing my chest and i needed to quit. And no I’m not fooling myself.

As for meeting again maybe meeting are for those you do not have a support system i do not know but I have supportive family members when i need to talk. I think the more you obsess about something the more it stays around. i guess I feel that meetings are just a constant reminder of the B.S i endured when i was drinking alot . Did that make sence? I don't know if it did or not. Its almost like a women getting raped i do believe that she needs to talk about it alot at first but why keep talking about it and relivin the past.

You made comments like " i pondered weither or not i was an alcoholic when i was sober for a while,thak god i never went back out there " How can you predict the future or the prsent on whats going to happen if you don't do it yet. I'm not saying do that , but i'm wondering if your sayin that because it's sounds text book and you've heard it so many times from other people or what. That was the biggest reason why i stopped going to meeting for the fact is i felt most of peoples words were the EXSACT same as everyone else, word by word and i mean word by word. Not alot of people i felt had there own thoughts. But like i said i did learn alot from the program through so it's not all bad to me.

Happy New Year

Hey Gladys , actully someone had sent me a message and thats why i came back on. The oone-sideness i'm talkin about is that i feel alot of people from A.A/N.A are stuck in there own ways and can not see other opion for what they are. I can talk a little more latter but rite now i have to go babysit.


I finally swallowed my pride and am takin a VERY SMALL does of exfxor for the anxity and A.D.D. 27mg startin tomarrow. I guess i wanted to wait for the New Year. I am going for 5 weeks in a treatment centre to deal with some trama and learn more about mental health. I am going on Jan 5th and will be there until Feb 10th.

Maybe we can talk befroe hand but i will be very busy until than.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!! I thought about writing you alot but have been real flustered with school latley and holidays are depressing for me since i am away from my son. You have alway had a caring heart and i felt i was a bit disrespectful leaving you hangin. So sorry :p:cool:

Hi Pretty in Pink!
I am glad to hear that you have alot of support around you. I do too! I live with a sober alcoholic...hubby has been sober for 8 years as well.
I know that you and I have different opinions and thats OK...just please be careful...if you find yourself in need of extra support for anything do not hesitate to let it all out here. Wishing you a Very Happy New Year!! Hugs,:hug:Dorrie

motivation
 

what worked for me was motivation. a love interest had 3 small children and stated he did not want them exposed to me under the influence. so i quit cold turkey and stopped associating with folks who would tempt me. his argument made sense. after a year or so i was able to associate with anybody and to say no easily. it is harder at first. the one person i could not dissasociate from (a rent paying roomate) realized it was a temptation and hid it around me. i quit 14 yrs ago and slipped only once in the first 2 wks.

i am now able to apply for any job i want without worry about a pee test. this has been good motivation to stay clean.