I have to tell you that I am completely addicted to alcohol. I have tried other drugs in my life and have never gotten addicted. For some reason, alcohol gets to me. My mom abused me when i was younger and at that time i enjoyed the taste of wine (I would sneak a little here and there.) I would sneak it every time I could. Regardless, I think you can get over the addiction, you just have to want to. I want to, but my husband drinks and he doesn't have a problem.... (Really??????) anyhow, I don't feel like I can stop my pattern with him still drinking. it's not his problem, it's mine. So, the best to you and do what you have to do and make your life right for you. The best to you.... <3

You are in a very difficult situation, but you know that. Can you take the very sage advice that you gave Jasper? You advised him to "do what you have to do and make your life right for you." WoW! Spot on!

Do you go to AA? Al-Anon? With him drinking, both would help. Is there a time, maybe when he's at work, when you could go?

You sound much too bright to be so hopeless. Please bring your objectivity to bear here. I think the world could really benefit from you, sober.