Welcome Karen! It is good you have someone come in several times a week to help. Keeping yourself healthy is most often.

I know this has to be hard for you. I helped care for for my MIL for years until we had to place her. I was a sad day indeed to do that it couldn't be helped. We still try to go as much as we can. I do her laundry. I know it doesn't cross her mind as to who doess the laundry. Really I am not able, but I want to do it, thats about the only thing I can do for her.

She does not know us, but she seems to connect to hubby at times. I have been think of you beautiful people that are caring for you LO's.

I was wondering if anybody had any questions or concerns when it come to the caring and taking care of your LO.

Karen, I am thinking that our LO's can go on a long time in the manner you discribe. It could be her times, but sometimes they live a long time in the not talking , just being out of things. You might want to start looking for a NH that has nurses and Drs. on the staff.
As much as we want to keep them, it can become very hard on the caregiver as well as the patient. Just take a bit of time to look on to the things time to visit and find out what kind of NH you want.

NH's are not always equel. They may look great outside or even in the lobbys, but the more "show" I saw turned out to be the worst when it came to caring for their patient.

Just thought that you all might want to consider. I say all this because we have lived thru many of these.

Speak up and maybe Karen knows something I don't know, etc. I would like to know how you all think of these things. I'm still seeking answers for things
I know no one knows the answers , but maybe we can help each other.

Take care everybody. I feel a little family beginning to grow here, starting all who needs to vent. Yes, I do vent too. Bless each of us, Julia

Karen, Please don't think I thought you should put your MIL in a NH. Not that at all!! Just helps to be prepared sometimes.

I was also thinkng of your own health. It's hard to even think on this, but sometimes we have to. I can tell anybody, it was a move I did not want to to make.
If I had been able I would have kept MIL longer. No doubt about it!! Sometimes it is not possible. Take care Karen and the rest of you dear people. thank you and take care all, Jo