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03-11-2016, 05:51 PM | #1 | ||
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Hi diandra
Belated Happy Birthday Re your Mother - I personally didn't have to go through that with either of my parents but I spent a lot of time with the mother of a close friend who had dementia. She was eventually cared for in a rest home but as her daughters were both working full-time during the week I used to visit. She had known me for over 30 years and at first she remembered who I was and my name - this gradually faded but I found that trying to make her laugh was one of the best things - even if it meant singing old songs together or getting her to tell me stories about her earlier life. Another thing was I used to take her a small gift each time I visited - strawberries from the garden, posy of flowers, a particular type of ice-cream cone that had been around for years, etc. Right to the end even if she didn't remember who I was I could still arrive and she would say "oh Freesias - I love freesias" or "TipTop trumpet my favorite ice-cream" - she still associated particular things with good memories. All the best with your journey. |
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03-12-2016, 12:53 AM | #2 | ||
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Just wanted to say how sweet it was of you to visit your friends mother and loved the suggestion of little gifts. Just awesome of you !
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03-15-2016, 08:37 PM | #3 | ||
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Diandra,
Please let me start by saying what a gracious thing you have done to care for your mother while you yourself are suffering from illness. I hope you can take time for yourself amongst all the needs of your mother. My mother-in-law was about my current age when I met her. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer's about 6 or 7 years ago and did finally pass away in 2014. She was a bright and caring person who always thought of others before herself. It was tough watching her decline. I had worked in the medical field with several patients with dementia, but it never was as hard to live it with a loved one. So much changed toward the end, as her walking, talking, and daily living skills were lost. How I missed the days of chatting with her about anything over a cup of tea. Toward the end, she failed to recognize us, but on some days her smile would stretch across her face and she would reach for you in a moment of clarity. I hang onto the memories of those moments when I remember her. So difficult to go through, but she has someone she loves close by her and taking care of her in you and your husband. I did not live with my mother-in-law, but I had her and my father-in-law over on the weekends to give him some needed personal time. I took some comfort in knowing I tried to be there for my mother-in-law and did what I could to show her how much I loved her even if she may not have able to fully appreciate it. Hope I helped you with your questions. Take care, M-i-m |
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