[Deborahc56]

My daughter who is 30 y/o has OCD with ruminating thoughts. Possibly other issues as well. He mental problems started at a very young age. She has lived with me her whole life. I have not been able to get her the help she needs until she was grown and started getting into trouble with the law, crashing my cars, stealing and mixing meds with alcohol. She cant keep a job either. Its come to a head now. The state got involved and her probation officer and therapist are trying to get her into a facility long term to get her evaluated but its been a long process finding her a place. In the meantime she has been in and out of the hospitals this weekend because she is creating havoc in my home and threatens suicide, which she always threatens to keep me scared. There is a temp restraining order on her now to keep her out of my house so I had to kick her out on the street with no where to go. She lost all of her good friends so all she has is people who are bad influences.

She came back last night to get her phone and to pack a bag. She begged to stay the night but I stood firm and said no. She was shocked at my response. I think now she knows the jig is up. I told her that this was my bottom too and she had two choices. Do what she needs to do to get better or go to jail.

Court is Tomorrow because of the restraining order. She may go to jail. I told her therapist that she took my car and had an accident with me forgetting that her license was suspended. When her probation officer finds out, than my daughter is in big trouble. She needs to be accountable for sure, no doubt about it but again needs to be in a hospital for several months, not jail. If she goes to jail, that will really throw her over the edge as it would if it were me. Maybe that is what she needs.

I am a single parent with little family left as they all have passed away and the ones that I do have (2 brothers) are of no support to me. My daughters father is bi-polor and spends his life in and out of hospitals. I am an emotional wreck and can barely work. Im afraid I ma lose my job because of my stress level. Ive been dealing with her ongoing issues for so long coupled with a high stress job that Im a wreck. I tried meds to help me but it only made me a walking zombie and almost got into a car accident being on the meds. I did try several of them already. I have to dig deep to find the strength to keep her out of my house. A friend found this site for me because there is no one that truly understands what Im going through and hope that we can all combine our strengths to get through these hard times. I pray that its not too late for my beautiful daughter.

Debbie

[Kitt]

Welcome Deborahc56.

Someone will be along to help.

[Lara]

It sounds to me by reading your msg that your daughter is dealing with issues other than just OCD. Sure, she needs to be accountable for her actions, but it sounds as if she has a lot more going on than obsessions and compulsions and needs correct diagnoses and treatments if applicable.

If I were in your shoes, I'd try to find a local group for caregivers and family support. They would have resources to help you. I'd do it right now.

There are lists of support groups online. In person ones I mean, not just the internet.

one example for OCD is the OC Foundation
http://www.ocfoundation.org/listsupportgroups.aspx

This appears to be an urgent situation and I'd be asking for help from a social worker or her case worker. Ask her therapist for help. I'd do that right now too.

btw if her father has bipolar disorder and is spending his life in and out of hospital I would think that he is not being correctly treated either.

sorry your family are dealing with all these worries.
It would be very stressful indeed.

[Lara]

More

http://www.namimass.org/crisis/before-a-crisis-occurs

NAMI - justice system

I also forgot to mention that this is a fairly quiet forum and wanted to leave the link for the sister site called PsychCentral. There may be more information there regarding this immediate and urgent situation.

http://psychcentral.com/resources/

http://blogs.psychcentral.com/caregi...steps-to-take/

http://psychcentral.com/resources/Suicide_and_Crisis/

[Deborahc56]

She has a therapist that is working to get her into an inpatient place for a few months to get her on the right meds. Should I do more than that? I don't know what else to do. She is on probation due to a car accident. She was drunk driving. She drinks while on her prozac and xanix. She consistently self sabotage's and she has admitted it.

D

Originally Posted by Lara

It sounds to me by reading your msg that your daughter is dealing with issues other than just OCD. Sure, she needs to be accountable for her actions, but it sounds as if she has a lot more going on than obsessions and compulsions and needs correct diagnoses and treatments if applicable.

If I were in your shoes, I'd try to find a local group for caregivers and family support. They would have resources to help you. I'd do it right now.

There are lists of support groups online. In person ones I mean, not just the internet.


This appears to be an urgent situation and I'd be asking for help from a social worker or her case worker. Ask her therapist for help. I'd do that right now too.

btw if her father has bipolar disorder and is spending his life in and out of hospital I would think that he is not being correctly treated either.

sorry your family are dealing with all these worries.
It would be very stressful indeed.

[Lara]

Well, inpatient care is way better than jail.
Hopefully that's what happens.

Hopefully she can get some help in care.
I'm sorry about your situation. It would break my heart.

She has to want help for it to work though.

Do you see that in her? Do you think she realizes it's time for help?

[Deborahc56]

At this time, I cant take her word. She says a lot of things but never follows through. Right now I cant trust her word. BTW, her father and I were divorced when she was a yr old and lives in another state so I don't know why he spends his life in and out of hospitals. I think he just doesn't take his meds.

Update, she checked herself into detox. They are looking for somewhere to send her for help. I pray she will do the work to get back into life but right now its hard to believe she will get the help she needs or she will do what she needs to do. Its been 15 yrs of hell going this alone with her. I can only pray.

Originally Posted by Lara

Well, inpatient care is way better than jail.
Hopefully that's what happens.

Hopefully she can get some help in care.
I'm sorry about your situation. It would break my heart.

She has to want help for it to work though.

Do you see that in her? Do you think she realizes it's time for help?