Sure. I think that the new kid on the block is a bully,and he is bothering your son,and your son is angry. Your son does not know what to do with that anger. Buy him a punching bag. I had one when I was a teenager. It did wonders for me. Maybe you can call his school principle,and he might be able to investigate the situation in secret. Your son is probably afraid to say anything at school for fear of being called a tattle tail. That would be a pile of shame on a teenager. I believe anger can send obsessions,and compulsions into a vicious cycle. He may be sensitive,and these thoughts of being bullied may be going around,and around in his head. This could be tormenting him. People without OCD can release these thoughts,but people with OCD may not be able to. That hurting cycle of thoughts will probably be replaced with the next hurting cycle of thoughts. Does he have any hobbies? Find out what he likes,and provide the resources for him to explore,create,and build upon.

Brokenfriend I'm sorry to hear about all you're going through. My battle with OCD and anxiety began a few years ago. I've found relief in giving up control of my life to God. When I'm not trying to control my thoughts and emotions they don't have such a hold on me. I was a skeptic at first, but I've found that praying to God and asking him to take control is the way to find peace.
star77

Hi
Just like to apologise for not posting sooner.Hope you are coping with issues.
Took your advice have got a punch bag,I find it helpful for me to.My son has started going to a football training course,he really enjoys it.Just a problem if it rains hates getting wetand also cant stand shin pads.It takes half an hour to get pads just right always ends up with him shouting and tears.
What has surprized me most is they have played 3 matches and have lost 10-2 or 13-1 but doesn't seem to mind.
Take care Dotty

Thank you star 77. Dotty,I've been on another forum that Curious recommended. Some people think that I'm also bipolar. I'm glad that the punching bag works. They have made me feel better.

I'm pleased you have found new site where people have helped you.You helped my son and me Thanks.
Take Care
Dotty

I don't think you're in the wrong place I've been where you are. Going crazy from the uncertainty feeling I had no where to turn to and that my life was one long nightmare. The thing that really helped me was yoga grounding excercises. I've found a yoga excercise, called "head to knee pose" to be extremely calming. . You can google it . I've found these help with muscular skeletal chest pain from stress. Just be sure to (consult your doctor ...hahaah disclaimer), make sure you breathe properlywhile doing the stretches.
Yoga can definately help with OCD. I went from 200 mg of Zoloft down to 100 mg because of it. Yoga videos I recommend would be Yoga for wieght loss by Suzanne Deason of GAIAM. The name obviously fashioned to make sales, but the workout very well rounded and calming; perfect for a beginner.
If you think about why you get chest pain, it comes from holding your body rigid due to stress. Basically this stretch undoes for me what stress does to me on a day to day basis. If I can control the chest pain, I feel more control over everything else. Hope this helps.
Hmm... aww yes "relabel your OCD thoughts" as just that, OCD thoughts caused by genetic problem, and then refocus; do something productive, even if it's just the laundry. You can feel bad and give into compulsions or feel bad and do something productive and just maybe feel a sense of accomplishment. If you get the real nervous agitated energy like me, use the adrenaline to accomplish things. This does two things, (1) burns of the adrenaline so you aren't so tense and (2) helps you weaken the OCD beast. The more power you give it the stronger it gets. If you ignore it gets weaker. Also, real brainy activities that involve figuring stuff out help to refocus your mind. If you can go to work and stay busy I highly recommend this.

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Sorry Brokenfriend, I didn't realize you were in the OCD group as well. I know I already replied to you in the bipolar group, but only because I really identified with your symptoms and how you were feeling. I try to tell all who have similar symptoms what worked for me. I'm curious too if the excercises, I suggested help others. I was ready to throw in the towel, until recieving a combo of therapies, antidepressants, CBT, EDMR, and yoga. The yoga did wonders for me. Now I work full time as a staff accountant. A really brainy job that keeps my mind focused. Caution: Some yoga is stimulating and some is calming... Stick with the calming poses.

I have gone to another forum to learn about my sister's disease. She is infirmed with MS. My grandmother on my mothers side had ALS(Lou Gehrig's disease)...Lou Gehrig... What a brave man,he was looking back at all of the good fortune that he had,and that everyone loved him... My mother had MS,and she died in a nursing home last year. Gone but not forgotten. I'd like to say bless her,and she's not forgotten. It affected everything in her life. She stopped writing letters,and calling people over 20 years ago. She suffered in silence. I honor her memory. She did not want that terrible disease. Now my sister has it. Now she cannot walk.(3 generations of females on my Mothers side). I am now worried about her two daughters,my two nieces. They have not shown any signs of it. By the way,my Grandmother was a real cool Grandmother,and full of charm,and life. She was a beautiful person. I'm going back to the Bipolar forum. dotty,I will be back. I appreciate your friendship. I'm glad that your son is hanging in there. We may have things to look forward to. With stem cell research on the horizon,and medical research in space,and all kinds of new things that they are developing,and working on,and perfecting...there may be a better outcome then we think. Thank you peace of mind for your advice. Hang in there. I have not left here permanently. I have found friends,and support on the bipolar forum. I seem to have some Bipolar traits,and I may get some different medication combinations. A few breaks in the clouds of my life have appeared,and I see a little sun coming through the clouds.

dotty,I just read the thread where you where in the beginning of the year. I haven't read it before. The doctor that told you not to worry was trying to put your mind at ease. If it's OCD,he will be greatly helped by new medications like Luvox,and several others. It takes about TWO MONTHS for the medicine to get into his system. He's going to need some kind of therapy. Please take him to a specialist,who is well recommended. If you cannot afford one, please go to Social Services. If it isn't OCD take him to some kind of neurologist. Some regular doctors,and some psychiatrist's will just tell you anything to calm you,or him down. A specialist of some kind,a neurologist,or a highly skilled Psychiatrist can make the diagnosis. A regular family doctor doesn't usually have the expertise to really know. Please let me know how he's doing. The earlier the treatment at his age,the better off he will be in the long run. He's at the age in life right now, where what he becomes in life is being formed. I don't mean to be alarming you,but It should be a high priority to get him to a specialist. It may be a problem that we have no idea of,but a specialist would,over time. Actually a correct diagnosis might take awhile.A treatment plan might take awhile also,but at least he will be on a path that will bring him treatment.Oh please let me know how he is. My heart goes out to you all. Brokenfriend

Hi BF! I am sorry that you have OCD. I have recovered from anxiety and I have learned so many helpful things about mental health. I'll bet your father's anger just always set you on edge. I think that people grow up anxious because they don't feel secure. Your dad's anger probably never allowed you to feel secure and everything just snowballed from there. I got better by focusing on the here and now and only going back in my past if it helped me understand how I was behaving and thinking today. It is all about self-understanding and problem solving and feeling secure. I think it helps to tell yourself that most of your feelings of insecurity are coming from your childhood and that these conditions don't exist today and that you can feel secure today. The feelings of insecurity are just a habit from the past when you were a child. Children don't think correctly because their brains are not capable yet and aren't fully developed. Our feelings form then when we didn't have the mental capacity to deal with these issues and we continue to carry them with us today until we confront and deal with them. This stuff can really be understood and worked out.

Dotty, I hope you are still around. Do you feel that you are a bit anxious and not feeling too secure?