I copied this over here for TigerMa so that more people would see.

Thanks,
Abbie

also get notions.

We as parents have to be careful to not attribute all behaviors to
the ADHD--this is really a downside to labels. (My son was diagnosed at age 9 with ADHD and took stimulants for almost 5 yrs).

My son wanted BOOTS... neither of us wear boots!
He still wears them.(at 27)

ADD stimulants can make kids strident. But if your son is okay in other ways, I think he is just expressing his growing self.
Parents have to be very careful to separate out the LABEL and allow their children to grow into what they want to be.

To this day my son is jeans, T-shirts, and boots. (Sometimes he wears regular footwear). Luckily for him his job has no
dress code and computer people all wear jeans and Tshirts!
The money he saves allows him to buy the techie phones and doodads he likes! LOL

Nine years old is early, but hey, kids mature earlier these days with all the media and other things. My son started puberty at 11 which was young for males. So please just consider this a part of "growing up'.

Thanks mrsd.

My son was diagnosed at age 5 and we have been trying to get this thing under control. His trigger times are in the morning before the meds have taken effect and in the evening when we are getting ready for bed. (normal right)

I'm just at my wits end at how to end the constant chaos that goes with these times. I feel like I have to be on him constantly just to keep him moving, in between taking care of Katie Bug and the regular household chores which mostly have to wait until they are in bed. (you need a smiley for *overwhelmed*)

I am a part-time single Mom, my husband travels *a lot* so I am alone most of the time. I also work 30+ hours a week and have a 4 year old.

I guess I m ranting a bit, I do get a little overwhelmed, but for the most part

I do OK. I'm working on not yelling so much, but when Bugman is off in his own world and "can't" hear you talking to him three feet away it does get frustrating...............Not to mention that pit he calls his room. I send him in to clean and three hours later it's worse.

Is that normal behavior for 9 year olds????

It's late, more at a later date, thanks for enduring my rants.

Tigerma


ps My son likes boots also.

are hard to live with. They also are limited, in time and effect.

Studies show that kids' brains change with age, and stimulants
no longer work after a time.
example:
http://www.sciencenews.org/view/gene...prisingly_weak

We found that natural interventions worked much better for our son. At the time, these were still new, and mostly I was attacked and flamed for bringing them to others' attention.
Now they are mainstream, and worth looking into.

Males and esp people on stimulants need zinc. Also EFAs work well. I have an EFA thread here at the Vitamin forum.

Since the behavior problems occur when the drugs wear off,
that sounds like rebound to me. There is not much you can do with rebound, but endure it. It is not the kid's fault..so don't get discipline oriented for those times.

Natural solutions include:
EFAs (Omega-3's esp DHA)
magnesium
zinc
Bcomplex or at least B6.

B6 and magnesium are needed to make serotonin from EFAs.
Since transfats are being removed from foods now, they are less of an issue. But a diet high in them is not good, as they displace the necessary Omega-3s from being used properly.
If you Google around you can find reputable places with advice, (and some strange stuff too).

Dr.Amen MD remains a very good resource for ADHD and other brain issues.
http://www.brainplace.com/
http://www.healthcentral.com/adhd/c/...-adhd-dr-amen/

Hello, MOM. I know you are worried about his "picking up" those behaviors from you but I believe they are more "HIS" than you think. He may have OCD as well as ADHD and you are just now picking up on it. The behaviors you have described are well within the OCD behaviors and with mom having OCD, it is more likely that he will have a chance of having it as well. Whether or not he has it is secondary to how you and he manage it. Hopefully that management will be with calm, order, and love and hopefully it won't become severe. Cognitive Behavioral strategies are great for these behaviors so if you can get a psychologist who is familiar with them, go for it. There are a few books as well. Google Cognitive Behavioral Therapy in children. I am a special education teacher with OCD and I have a son with Tourette Syndrome, OCD and ADHD so your son's behaviors sound very familiar to me. My son is in college now and although a bit quirky still, has grown into a great young man. Good luck with your meeting and don't be afraid to have your dr. diagnose your son because his teachers, with more information, can create his individual education plan better.