to read more please go to:
http://pediatrics.aappublications.or...-2583.abstract

There seem to be so many ideas.

I start to feel really bad reading all these studies about obesity or diabetes or whatever. In reality I was the happiest and healthiest in my life. Not obese, not diabetic, not using drugs, not even drinking coffee, or soda or overtaking the sugar. I was however, an older mother. <sigh> So when do we stop being "blamed" or focused on or indeed stop blaming ourselves for what is really a gift.

Oh yeah. It's maybe hereditary?!

Sorry Chemar. That wasn't directed at you.
You know how much I love learning and reading new research and embrace its challenge for us all.
I just get tired some nights wondering about all the what ifs.

i found it does no one any good to do the could have should have would have they are all thing we can't change. take care of what you can and let go of the rest. every one and every thing happens to us for a reason.my granddaughter who is almost 3 has autism.no known reason but i have to say she has an amazing mother and she is starting to make progress.because mom knew something was not what it should be it was discovered early and has a bright future regardless of how much sh can do.
bless you and keep up what you are going it is for a good reason
brenda

Thanks Brenda.
You're right.
I was having a bad day. Back on track now. lol

so glad to hear and every one has bad days but i must say i am in awe of any parent who does as well as you and my daughter in law.you should stand tall and proud because are a special mom and not every one can do as well as you with all you have on you.
besides more time should be spent helping the parents and children who deal with autism instead of trying to find someone to blame.
keep up the good work and god bless you
Brenda

Brenda, the day I wrote that reply was my son's 25th Birthday. He's actually doing very well these days all things considered. The teenage years were very difficult however. It didn't help that he was not correctly diagnosed on autism spectrum until he was 13. He had other health challenges as a young child and some misdiagnoses as well, so it was difficult for him esp. in the school setting where he did very well academically but not socially. His peers didn't treat him very well. My son's birthday also happens to be the anniversary of my marriage many years ago. A marriage which ended 14 years ago. To this very day my ex-husband plays the blame game. Just wanted to explain a little more.

You're right, I wish there was more help available for families. 20 - 25 years ago here there was nothing.

I wish your family all the best. It's wonderful that your daughter in law has you as you sound a very loving, caring person. She'll need your understanding.

thankyou.

I actually LAUGHED at this study!! We have been able to trace DEFINITE Asperger's tendencies back several generations after the dx of my nephew (and absolutely NO diabetes or metabolic problems WHATSOEVER in our family!!!). I personally feel that these researchers are "grasping at straws". Remember when they first felt that autism was the fault of non-attentive mothers?? YIKES!!

As Tony Atwood says, the world simply would NOT function without the GIFTS of the higher-functioning autistics. And, as a former teacher, I can tell you that the lower-functioning autistics give us "gifts", too -- several have taught me to STOP, look, and listen to the beautiful world surrounding me. So, GO WITH THE FLOW -- know what you know -- and if need be, IGNORE the so-called "experts"!