I am wondering how you find your doctors?

Do you just go where you're told by refferal?
Word of mouth by friends? What about the times you don't have friends to advise you?
Do you choose on proximity?
Or your insurance providers list?

I'm looking for a few doctors, but with the anxiety I have for doctors, I'm looking for a better way. I spent 7 years of my life knowing something was wrong, undergoing numerous testing, having doctors look at me like I was crazy, or looking for drugs, or just trying to push pills on me. The non-listeners, the bad advice providers, and the uninterrested or too busy are all I seemed to find using any and all of the above ways listed above. There has got to be a better way. The internet searches are a joke and unrealible, so what does one do when they don't know where to turn? And then to add to that trying to find a specialist that has experience treating a disease outside of their speciality, but that affects their speciality... For example a dentist familiar with Sjogren's or PN, or a dermatologist with direct experience treating patients with lupus, not just one that "knows" about it, or has seen a case or two.

I think Angie's List has a doctor section, but it's a paid for site, so I'm skeptical. And aprehensive.

So does anyone have a process they use that works in getting good doctors that are knowledgable, care about treating/fixing/solving the issues?