Hi.

Alan is so not cooperating I can't begin to tell you. He doesn't care. He wants his ice cream, his snacks (I'm not enabling so that's not going to happen). He does eat my sprouts and loves them but he also eats sugar free cookies (that friends gave him, that I hid but that he found). He doesn't eat the whole box but when I explain what I'm trying to do here, he goes "But it's Sugar Free!!!" and I respond "They are processed, what don't you understand, I'm trying to clean out your system". He doesn't care about any system.

So I'm not going to continue to kill myself just to take care of him. There is no one to take care of me. If he wants to go out and get himself a Dunkin Donuts/Baskin Robbins ice cream, I can't stop him. I think once it gets warm outside that's exactly what he's going to do.

He doesn't GET it. I DO!! Been getting it for 10 years. I know what to put in my body and what not to put in my body. But then again, I don't have the card 14 gene, I don't have severe neuropathy the way he does. He has chronic pain every day of his life. I can't imagine living like that but he does.

And his psoriasis today is exactly the same as when I took him off all sugar, processed foods, wheat, etc. etc. Even adding the soothing healing cream that someone was nice enough to give me.

Nothing is going to work in this man. I think that there was a trigger. I also think that when he had the laser treatment and it was ALL gone, and the doctor said "don't get hopeful, it WILL return with a vengeance", well the dermatologist was right on the money.

I think these treatments may do the exfoliation of the skin cells which might last for 2 or 3 months but that because of the Card 14 mutation, they reappear and are worse. Alan NEVER had it like this 10 years ago.

So I don't know what to do. I have to start taking care of myself because believe me, he is not capable of doing so.

Oh well

Melody

Yes they are processed, but i never heard of a cookie being sugar free, a cookie is a highly processed product from sugar, cookie is basically made of sugar and fats,no good if you are trying to control sugar or fat levels.

I hear you. I don't bring these things into my home. But I can't control what this man does when he goes out, and with the weather changing, that's going to happen. The weather has been so up and down and he has psoriatic arthritis. This morning, upon awakening, he was moaning so bad. I gave him two advil and he went back to sleep. By the time I came back from my morning coffee at Dunkin, he was up, showered, at the computer, smiling at me and saying 'OMG, you are the best, I feel so much better". All I did was give him two advil and put some bengay on his knee. And I put one of those knee braces that you pull up and it covers the area with a hole for the knee cap. He believes it helps keep his knee from buckling. I don't think it does anything but he believe it so it's good in that way.

He's going to be 69 this year. Age has taken it's toll on this man with all these conditions.

We do the best we can do. I just wish there was something to be done for his inflammation because THAT'S what is at the root of all of this. Inflammation. I know the advil helps. I also know you can't take too much of this. It's going to rain tomorrow so the barometer is changing. I really wish we lived in Arizona or Vegas or a tropical climate that is always hot. We never have pain when it is HOT.

Melody