Hi,

I got voice mail /email at work (the phone does both) from my professor from grad school. I last talked to her about 7 years ago when I needed a favor and she helped me. I last saw her 10 or more years ago.
She invited me to a her book signing way across town on Wednesday (Sept. 30) and to some events in November.

In her second email she indicated that the events in November are more important to her than the Wed night book signing -- that she really hopes I can come to the November events.

I don't want to go to anything!!!
I feel tired, fat, old, and depressed.
I'm still scared that back in July I went to bed and then woke up having a stroke. I'm scared.



This has got me crying and depressed -- but it doesn't take much these days.

M

Mari...


If you can't make it to the September 30th event....November is a while off and things may be in a better place with you... take it one day at a time. If you feel good...go, but if you don't...I'm sure your prof will understand.

I truly understand where you are with this... something similar is pending in my near future.


Abbie

please in no way feel obligated to do this.
your health(mental and physical) is more important right now.
If you agree to go you can always decide to change your mind and not go. We are allowed to change our minds about things. Or you can tell her that you will not be going and maybe at the last minute you change your mind and then go. or you can just be honest and tell her that you are under a lot of pressure right now and that you can't promise anything right now.
((((HUGS))))
bizi

I would definitely NOT go, you've been through a LOT Mari, in a short time, and you're STILL going through a LOT so don't push yourself. I would be honest and tell her you're just not up to going and wish her lots of luck. Taking care of yourself is priority #1.

Mari

I agree with everyone else. But I also believe you might change your mind.

So just wait and see.

Donna

Hi,

Thank you everyone.

For about a minute I felt good enough to go tomorrow / Wednesday.
I emailed her something non-committal about Wed.


I looked on the web page and see that she has has a fancy title and probably has put a lot of work into the Nov. events.


Part of me thinks I should go Wednesday night in case something else comes up in November.
I'll leave myself the option of going or not.


I found something to wear that I can stand just in case.
It's in the laundry.
I wish I could do more than just make sure that I have a clean shirt to wear ---- but truly most days that is my goal in public -- to make sure that I am clean enough.

Clean counts.
We take our victories where we can.

M.

Dear Mari,

Can you e-mail a return to your former professor, telling her you are currently too ill to make it the 30th, congratulating her, thanking her again for her help to you 7 years ago, and telling her you will TRY to make it to her November events, but that your illness is chronic. Or something to that effect? You would not have to be more specific than you wanted to. I am glad that you are still able to work!! I know that it is hard at times. You have helped ME, and I am grateful. billie

Let us know how you're doing when you can.

I hope you got to rest/sleep and are feeling better by now.



~ waves ~

Hi,

I haven't been knocked out like this for awhile.
I keep waiting for each day to get better.
Maybe tomorrow will be better.
I napped. That helped.

I'm not answering mail or phone or doing anything I need to be doing.

And I don't know what to do for the cold except remember to sleep (HA!). Yes. I'm going to bed soon.

M.