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it isn't this single event anything that occurs with him specifically that is the issue. the problem is with me. and it happens with many people, many situations. like when my therapist goes on holiday. so yeah, i could talk to him about MY problem but he can't make it go away. the interaction would have to have gone exactly the same way as it did. he can't be catering to my fear of abandonment - that would be bad - for both of us. he did not blow me off, he was not unkind... nothing like that. there was nothing he could have reasonably done differently, in consideration of his situation and mine. i wasn't in an unusual situation. when i am, i can speak up. and he is someone i can count on. i can guarantee for him that if i had been messed up in some way and really needed to talk last night, he would have, at his own expense. and it's mutual. but i cannot take advantage of that! (it was hard not to beg, but i knew it would have been unfair... and pathetic.) these were not exceptional circumstances! ~ waves ~ |
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And various professionals - at different times - dx'd the problem, not me. i can look back and see that it makes sense however. |
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"Thanks for this!" says: | Mari (10-18-2009) |
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the abandonment feeling was receding but i had another incident with someone else... i guess my expectations of that person were too high or just inappropriate. i won't go into it. not a close friend this time. and not something that should get under my skin to the degree that it does.
i still feel really lonely. i am used to a lot of solitude - require it, in fact. yet here, i don't have enough privacy/solitude, and yet i experience loneliness. As George Thorogood sang: "When i drink alone, i prefer to be by myself" ... (minus the drinking in my case). ~ waves ~ |
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I hope that you are feeling better real soon.
bizi
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. Hattie the black and white one wrestling with hazel, calico. lost hattie to cancer..... Happiness is a decision.... 150mg of lamictal 2x a day haldol 5mg 2x a day 1mg of cogentin 2x a day klonipin , 1mg at night I will not give up in this weight loss journey, nor this need to be AF. 3-19-13=156, 6-7-13=139, 8-19-13=149, 11-12-13=140, 6-28-14=157, 7-24-14=149, 9-24-14=144, 1-12-15=164, 2-28-15=149, 4-21-15=143, 6-26-15=138.5, 7-22-15=146, 8-24-15=151, 9-15-15=145, 11-1-15=137, 11-29-15=143, 1-4-16=152, 1-26-16=144, 2-24-16=150, 8-15-16=163, 1-4-17=169, 9-20-17=174, 11-17-17=185.6, 3-22-18=167.9, 8-31-18= 176.3, 3-6-19=190.8 5-30-20=176, 1-4-21=202, 10-4-21= 200.8,12-10-21=186, 3-26-22=180.3, 7-30-22=188, 10-15-22=180.9, |
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Hi,
You are prob aware of the DBT work books on the market. They might work while you wait to hope you get the right kind of therapy. One link I found focuses on how "mindfulness" can be the first skill: http://www.associatedcontent.com/art...g2.html?cat=72 I mention this is because some of these things can be done to an extent with out a trained therapist. Here's a link I found that gives instructions on mindfullness: http://en.wikibooks.org/wiki/Dialect.../One-Mindfully Quote:
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