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With insensitive people. Let me tell you about my day which is a trigger.

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As some of you already know I have had a lot of trouble with the people I know in my life standing by me and being supportive. I have one best friend named Shirley and a half sister that I've never met that have been good for me. Shirley is Bi-polar and is an alcoholic which makes it hard for her to have to deal with really stressful moments. She had got caught shoplifting while drinking last year and as a result ended up paying a bondsman her rent money due for a few months. She has a court date coming up to be evicted. She's working on it and chances are she still has a chance to keep her apartment but she still keeps getting the threatening letters from the landlord. Shirley was put on some meds last Tuesday which has a side affect of being suicidal. She has not been sleeping hardly any since. She's been there for me big time and is very understanding of me. I love her like a sister. The people I know from Hanks have nothing good to say about Shirley. They always put her down. Today I told one of them not to put my best friend down anymore. I told the woman that Shirley has done more for me than she has or anyone else I know and that they should not pass judgement on Shirley.

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Today Shirley took about 80 Ativans. I called 911 right away when I went to her house and found out. I nearly had a asthma attack while on the phone with the dispatcher because I was so upset. The whole scene was very upsetting to me and I could not stop shaking for a few hours afterwards. To have 2 of the Hanks people not really think about how bad I felt to comfort me but instead dismiss it. One could not talk cause he was on the way out to church. The other one could only tear down my friend Shirley which only angered me. She said she has no sympathy for people who do such things as they are only doing it for attention. I debated her and after she kept arguing with me I finally ended up getting mad at her. How do you deal with such insensitve people? This woman didn't think about how upset I was but instead had to tear down my best friend. I really feel so all alone with so many insensitive people in my life. I just wanted to be comforted and soothed, not to argue. But for some reason the people from Hanks think they know better than me and need to tell me something I don't know that they think they know.

Shirley was given the charcoal stuff to make her secrete the pills and is alright now. Of course she's in the hospital on the psych ward but now I can relax for now except for some people who want to argue with me and put down my best friend.

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wow
that must have been so scarey.
my neighbor tried to over dose on oxycontin but her friends interviened.
your friend is lucky to have you as her friend.
As far as the people at hanks are concerned...
you are free to go there or not...it is up to you.
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Dear Barbara,
This is awful.
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Barbara, how stressful it must have been. I am glad Shirley is being looked after professionally now and you can relax. As far as those 'people' - you are better off without them. It is far better to be alone than have them on board.
Do write and let us know how you are.
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Thank you Bizi, Mari, and Isis.

I've been up all night writing letters of interest all night. I used the energy I had from the anger at the people from Hanks and redirected it to advocate for the mentally ill. I sent Obama, my U.S. represenative, my local newspaper, and one of my lawyers all a letter. I'm not sure how the mental health clinics are by you but in my county they are corrupt and do not have qualified personal. After I get some sleep I plan to send some more letters.

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Now that is what chanelling one's energy is all about. Good for you.
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Thank you Isis, I am vowing to continue my efforts to change the poor services into good services for the mentally ill. And if I keep busy doing that I won't need the people from Hanks to keep me occupied with their conversations by phone.

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With insensitive people. Let me tell you about my day which is a trigger.

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As some of you already know I have had a lot of trouble with the people I know in my life standing by me and being supportive. I have one best friend named Shirley and a half sister that I've never met that have been good for me. Shirley is Bi-polar and is an alcoholic which makes it hard for her to have to deal with really stressful moments. She had got caught shoplifting while drinking last year and as a result ended up paying a bondsman her rent money due for a few months. She has a court date coming up to be evicted. She's working on it and chances are she still has a chance to keep her apartment but she still keeps getting the threatening letters from the landlord. Shirley was put on some meds last Tuesday which has a side affect of being suicidal. She has not been sleeping hardly any since. She's been there for me big time and is very understanding of me. I love her like a sister. The people I know from Hanks have nothing good to say about Shirley. They always put her down. Today I told one of them not to put my best friend down anymore. I told the woman that Shirley has done more for me than she has or anyone else I know and that they should not pass judgement on Shirley.

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Today Shirley took about 80 Ativans. I called 911 right away when I went to her house and found out. I nearly had a asthma attack while on the phone with the dispatcher because I was so upset. The whole scene was very upsetting to me and I could not stop shaking for a few hours afterwards. To have 2 of the Hanks people not really think about how bad I felt to comfort me but instead dismiss it. One could not talk cause he was on the way out to church. The other one could only tear down my friend Shirley which only angered me. She said she has no sympathy for people who do such things as they are only doing it for attention. I debated her and after she kept arguing with me I finally ended up getting mad at her. How do you deal with such insensitve people? This woman didn't think about how upset I was but instead had to tear down my best friend. I really feel so all alone with so many insensitive people in my life. I just wanted to be comforted and soothed, not to argue. But for some reason the people from Hanks think they know better than me and need to tell me something I don't know that they think they know.

Shirley was given the charcoal stuff to make her secrete the pills and is alright now. Of course she's in the hospital on the psych ward but now I can relax for now except for some people who want to argue with me and put down my best friend.

Barbara

Hey barbara I have no tolerance for people who say they do this for attention. Shirly had a lot of things hit her at once. And it is hard to deal with that much stress and dealing with threats from the land lord. That really is horrible when you are not mentally stable.

When people are just flat out heartless there is nothing you can do about it. There is nothing that will change their mind. They will not listen and will always think you as faker. How to deal with them? I usually tell them to **** off and I hope they die. Which is the wrong way to deal with it. So do not do that. There is no point in explaining anything to those kind of people. They suck. I would never bother with them and find those around you who are supportive to know about Shirly and see if they can help her.
I will pray for shirly.

I hope things get better for her.

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