My husbands Indonesian ethnic group judge me just because we did not meet like normal people. So now a whole entire Indonesian church are gossiping about me and him and how they are not sure how we met for real. My husband and I were not honest about how we met for a certain purpose. We know how they will judge and gossip and talk real bad about us.( Seriously, they do that) My husband is fine with it. I am hurt that people who barely know me would talk like that about us. And most of all they are part of a church, I respect better behaviour than that from Christians. But I guess they are not Christians now huh? It is frustrating to see such behaviour from grown people. I expected better than that.

Last night I cried because I feel hurt. My husband felt bad and did not know what to do. I told him do not worry about it I have to just be more tolerant of these type of people. I know they are talking bad about me behind my back. I know they are calling me a white slut just because they think that Chinese Indonesian men would never marry a white girl because they think white girls are all shallow. I AM NOT SHALLOW!!!!!!!!!!!

So yeah welcome to his world. Well I am done with being nice. World meet the biggest ***** you have ever known! SHARLA THE WHITE SLUT!

damn ****ers who are uneducated. I want to **** their world up for hurting my feelings like that.

HOW DARE THEY **** WITH MY REPUTATION!!!!!!!!:m ad:

Dear Sharla,
What they do is very hurtful.
Stay strong.


You knew this when you married him. What changed?
Some families are insular. They do this with anyone who marries into the family.

As long as your husband and you know the truth and you love each other you will be fine.
Try to avoid being around horrible people.

M.

Sharla,

I have had more trouble with church going people than those that don't go to church. I feel for you. I went through heck with the ladies in Hanks when I use to go with Bobby. I would try to stay away from them also. I'm sorry you have to go through this.

barbara

any way to set up a meeting with the pastor or the elder of the church?
I am sorry that they are gossiping about you guys..that must hurt.
sounds like a small church?
bizi

Dear Sharla,
Would the minister advise you to tell the family the secret you are keeping?
M.

Well I am not going to that church because I have heard bad things about these people on and off. The people there are uneducated and know nothing about anything and because of something being out of the normal they are going to judge us. The pastor obvious is in charge of a dead church if people are behaving like this. I was invited to that church by a friend who is a good friend and does not judge. And now that I know that there is a lady who is going to gossip all around, I will be treated nice up front but treated like **** behind my back.

That is so ***
My husbands family are good with me and are fine.
it is just the people who know him they are looking for some gossip fun and I get to be the big talk of their church now.

Totally **** bage I hate this

Sharla

Dear Sharla,
This is good news -- that you and the family are on good terms.
You can handle this. You can get over the gossipers.
You can focus on the good people in your life.

M.

Try to ignor what they are doing. In a church where they gossip,and slander,is a difficult place to be. I've been through these type of things. The church that I went to judged me,my illness,and my medicine. It didn't get any better,and the church ended up splitting,and there where divorces of several of the church members after the split.

Please,please find a new church. I don't think that they will change. This shows that they are not a loving bunch. They are human,and have fallen into temptation of gossup,back biting, and slander.

Please believe me. I have gone to many churches. The church that is balanced with good teaching,and love is a good church to go to. You will know them by their LOVE. Please find another church,before you feel grieved deep down. BF

I just opened up my Bible to 1 Corinthians 13. This is about the love that we are suppose to rise up to. I'm not perfect,and I have a long way to go.

Please don't let these people,and that Lady make you feel bad. It's a awful feeling to get that from the people in church who are suppose to love a accept you. They are showing that they reject you,and they are not accepting you.

I have been personally grieved for years at this type of behavior in some churches. It's not you. It's their lack of love.

If it's that one lady,can you talk to the Pastor. He can talk to that lady,and show her what it says in 1 Corinthians 13. Better yet ,maybe he can teach that chapter for a month.

When I went to church I was looking for Love,and looking to see Jesus in the people in church. I was very disappointed. Please don't give up. The people rejected Jesus,and they crusified Him. He knows what you are going through. BF