Hi,

They started work at 8:30 and left at 11:45 am. I stayed in bed and slept off and on. I have some ear plugs that have helped in the past but I sort of remembered that and then forgot to put them in.
At any rate, I got some sleep. I expect to take a nap later.


This is weird. Hubby is relaxed. Some anxiety abated as soon as the guys left. He feels safer apparently with the good door. I'm happy for me. When he feels safe he is calm. Calm is good.

M.

Calm is good.

I hope you have a nice nap :)

-Kay

Struggling
 

Hi,

I'm saddened -- also troubled -- about a close friend.

We can't be friends anymore.
I'm hurt and sad.

I'm not going to write about here because the details are not appropriate. But I still felt the need to post.

Thank you very much.


M.

((( :heartthrob: Mari :heartthrob: )))

i'm so sorry. if you want to or need to talk about it privately... i'm here... you have my contacts.

~ waves ~

oh I am sorry about your friendship....
that you are sad troubled and hurt...:(
it will take a while to figure out how to best deal with them that is if you will have to see them at work or others wise.
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

i am so sorry it happened. sometimes we have to cut off people to preserve ourselves. it doesn't make it less painful though

bobby

Yeah, I might have to cut her off.
We've been friends off and on (mostly on) for 30 years. She is my only friend.

This is distracting because I have other things to think about. My head is busy and I don't need this crap.
I'm sad for her and for me.

M.

make a list of positives and negatives
bobby

Also Mari, just take some time.

maybe whatever has happened has already built up over time... and is just coming to a head, i don't know. but even if so, it sounds like you are starting to react now. whether it has been a mounting thing, or whether there was a triggering event, give yourself time to react and process your reaction, recover from the hurt a bit.

in the meantime, you can take some distance from your friend without making a permanent decision about the relationship. you can just let the situation sit, and focus on your other things. you will gain perspective. and then see how the negatives and positives "weigh" in... they may weigh differently, after some time, than they do now.

also you may decide it isn't an all-or-nothing deal. you may choose to make the "distance" permanent, but not cut the person out of your life completely.

i am sorry, i have had to distance only very few people and with good friends it is very hard - it hurts and we miss them, even when there are good reasons not to have them in our lives any more. never had the situation with someone i'd known as long as 30 years. but people can change, or sometimes we discover they are not who we thought ... i guess that can happen after any amount of time. i hope that isn't the case here. that is an awful feeling. :(

~ waves ~

I'm so sorry Mari. This must be very difficult for you. :hug:

I do agree with Waves. Take some time to let the dust settle before making a permanent decision. With a little distance, everything takes on a different light.

-Kay