[bizi]

The People You Leave Behind
"What if I killed myself?"

Some people might argue that talking about what happens to the people you leave behind if you kill yourself may invoke more guilt in you than you can handle. I don't believe this is true. What I do believe is that if you intend to take your own life, then you ought to know, as much as is possible, what all the consequences of such an act are, including the likely consequences to others if you succeed.

Who are the others? They are your parents, your brothers and sisters, cousins, aunts and uncles, friends and loved ones, the people at school, the people at work - literally everyone who knows you. Because no other word describes them as well, the professionals in my field have chosen to call these people victims. Survivors of suicide, they are victims because, to one degree or another, they will suffer because you have suicided. Some of them will need love and understanding to recover from the tragedy of your death. The closer they are to you, the more they will suffer. And none will suffer more than your family.

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Suicide, The Forever Decision by Paul G. Quinnett
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[Nikko]

I agree. But since I have been there, done that. At that intense moment your mind doesn't think about that at all. In fact you mind says they will be better off without me. Sad, but true.

Just my two cents.

Nikko

[Alffe]

Nikko...Pter taught us something very important that helped tremendously:

"Our minds are quite manipulative particularly when cultivated by fear. Do not fear your suicidal thoughts. Do not be ashamed of them. Do not let them be a negative aspect of your being. Accept them..and post them here or talk openly about them to friends and family...

A suicidal thought is NOT initiated by the mind as a way to harm the person.
It is initiated by the mind as a misguided attempt to protect the person. By understanding its intent you will be able to redirect it with self esteem and self love in place...fear will not be able to stimulate the negative cascading psysiological affects that make so many of us tire to the point of accepting suicide as the solution."

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Our minds try to trick us into thinking that killing ourselves is a way to end the pain.....we need to be "up for that fight". Hugs

[bizi]

time for a bump

[BJ]

Our minds try to trick us into thinking that killing ourselves is a way to end the pain

And it's a a cruel trick. But when your mind doesn't work right???????

[mystified]

This is a tough subject for me. I've had more suicide attempts than I can count. I've wound up in intensive care and had to be brought back to life. I felt for a long time because I was so sick for so long that my family would be better off without me. I even asked my husband to divorce me and find someone he could lead a more normal life with. But then I got to feeling better and started seeing a therapist who told me exactly these things. Which is why when I had my next deep suicidal thoughts I agreed to go through ECT because my meds had failed. It was hard but my family thought I did much better after wards. I haven't had suicidal thoughts for some time although I still feel like I'm being a burden on my family at times. But then my husband and children tell me they love me and that they wouldn't change a thing about me. I'd be lost without them.

[bizi]

thanks mystified, our families can be invaluable to our souls...i know that this is not for everyone, but I wish it wre.
((((HUGS))))
bizi