I think I lose site that we are chosen by God to have special needs children, because we have the strength that will be all loving all giving to provide as we can. We will not lose site that they are our blessings and we theirs. Special people

That is so true, Di,

M.

Dear Donna,

You never cease to amaze me. I really appreciated reading Danny's story. i hope that Cherokee (Jen?) finds it and reads it.

You are a great inspiration and example to follow for all of us and no doubt many, many more who lurk here.

I admire you a whole lot.

~ waves ~

Thanks Di, Mari, Bizi, Waves and the others that read and don't post always.

I ami glad I can inspire all. I have to say though. I used to wonder when my kids were young. Why I was the one with all the kids with special needs,
why my sister's got the so called normal kids, gifted kids. And other things.

Well I remember so well what my mom said, Di you hit it on the nose.

My mom said, God gives these kids to those that can handle them.

He gave all the kids like this in our family to you, because he felt you were
the one that could handle them.

So I have always just taken my mom's words and ran with it.


I admire all parents with our kids. But I also admire all parents.

Because I think its the hardest job in the world, raising any kind of kid.

But to raise a special needs child is a gift from god. So I think we need
to handle it just like that.


Donna

Thank you so very much for sharing your story. It seems so similar to some of the roads that my daughter has traveled. She has 2 sisters as well and they had a hard time in the begining of the medication stage. Where we had to watch them all the time because she was hurting them or trying to. I dont know what is going on at her bfs house, i don't think she knows. I know the bfs mother took her to the ss office and wanted to be named her payee. They immediately called my husband and he said no. He said he would send her money for food and clothing but he believed the mother didn't have his daughters best interest at heart. He explained that by listening to this woman that his daughter had went off meds, etc.. I read her facebook posts and it breaks my heart because I know she is cycling in her moods now. It's been almost 3 weeks off meds and she told me the other day that we had nothign more to say to each other. I told her we love her and will always be here for her. I hope she the "honeymoon" so to speak is coming to an end there.

Again Donna thank you so much for your story. I ended it crying because it is so similar and it does give me hope... I only want the best for her and the most normal life she can live.. I want her happy. After so many years she deserves that as does your son.

I am so very happy I found this forum and a GREAT bunch of wonderful people who understand and are willing to be there for a complete stanger. Nowadays there are not alot of people like you and I appreciate every hope, every kind word and your prayers.. I am blessed to have found each and everyone of you.

Jen

Jen

Remember please that no matter what the prloblem we are all here.
I didn't have this group when my son was going through all his things.

I honestly felt I was alone many times. I felt very much like god was the
only person that was listening. And many times that he couldn't be, because my god wouldn't want what I was getting as a answer.

But as time went on. I learned that if I waited patiently, that he could and would turn out to be someone very special.

I don't honestly know what God has planned for my son.r

I need to at this point start encouraging him, to go back to his talent.
See he is a very talented artist. And now that he is laid off.
He needs to see what he could do with his talent.

Just have to find a way to use it. Not sure where to start.
I have to find my middle son's talent, so he can make some money too.

Donna

Jen

I'm so glad your husband wouldn't allow the bf's mother to take over as
Payee. Because I would imagine that she would get nothing then.

This way he can make it a thing were she has to come get some money.
Like for clothes or school when it starts.

Also when you were talking about her going to bf school.

I have a thought on that. I'm wondering if she doesn't have a way
back to the other school.

So you might make sure she knows that you will take her to the other
school.

I think the bf's mother, might also help you encourage her to take this
opportunity. Because she will have a better chance to get a job.

Donna

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What a wondrous story of motherhood, Donna. Your son is fortunate to have had you in his corner, but not everyone who has fought the good fight has felt as fortunate as you do about it. Your feeling of gratitude is probably part of the "secret" of your success.

I don't have kids, haven't had little ones to nurture into adulthood (or mess up), but i had a mom who loved unconditionally & I've often have a good mother or two among my closer acquaintances most of my life. They seem to carry a nurturing air around with them.

They're wonderful to have in a small meditation group. Do you meditate? You'd be a natural I think.

I'm so glad you wanted me to know about Danny. That's a gift, & I thank you for it ! I will remember him--& you--forever.

Jude

Thanks for reading Danny's story. I don't meditate. I don't exactly know
how.

And I have had many tell me, and honestly many have told him that he is lucky that he has/had me.

So I guess they are right. I personally always felt it was part of being
a mom.

Donna