Such good advice from both Mari and Bizi.

And Jude you cracked me up.

Donna

Jacquie,
I know he is your husband and you want him home and should. My only thoughts are the stimulating environment may be an overload to your husband. I once brought de home from a discharge, not back to her own apartment. Placed her in our downstairs (bi-level full open to her). But in reality it was just too much on me as far as taking care of everyone else, her needs, (demands) and make a chilled environment for her. We all had to walk on eggshells.......

If she and I were alone, it would have been entirely different. But eventually after dad passed away I had the oppertunity for her to be next door and have privicy, quiet and her own space without all the othe people in the home and each of their needs being shared.
Being close by we could be with each other and had space. Is there a time that your son's family would be able to have other housing? Or a half way home for dh so he can be out of a hospital setting but not be overwhelmed.
What if your son stayed in the home and you two had an apartment for a few months?

I don't know just thinking out loud running some senerios.
Am praying for you all to have wonderful days ahead and healing.
di

Hi,
I will just say that it is very average for people to be severely agiated after being released from a psych. unit. I don't think the way most are run today that someone is going to get proper care.
if you can talk with your husband and find out what is bothering him and try and resolve it you might be better off.
When people are off there rocker it is hard to reason with them.Ive been down that road myself.Now I avoid getting worked up so i dont get like your hubby.its been several years now for me and i take no meds.
If you want to email me I can suggest a local meeting near you.


best,
John

Dear John,
Well dang nab it! I don't know who is telling stories around here about people being off their rockers, but it just ain't so! I have seen many people rocking lately, & I most certainly am most firmly ON my rocker at this very moment:

Seriously, though, John, I known you weren't referring to me here but when I read it I couldn't help feeling kinda [I]R>>U>>N>>!

Very sincerely yours,
JudeLauren

Hi friends! It's been a little while since I checked in here. As a matter of fact, the other day, I had written a long reply to you all about how DH is really doing, and then must have gotten called away here at home or something. When I came back to like a day later, I found my reply, still not posted, in the editing stage. I tried to complete it, hit 'post reply' and ~~poof~~ it was gone . It might have been during the time the forum was offline, not sure.

Anyway, I had called my husband's social worker and asked her to please have his pdoc call me. Naturally he happens to be on vacation, but the nurse practicioner who works with the pdoc just called me back. She said that on most days, like 9 out of 10, he is fine, polite, friendly, basically 'normal', but then every once in a while, he has a down day, where he is very depressed and sometimes he says things that don't make sense. Ok then, seriously, he is pretty much getting back on track, except for that one day, once in awhile. She's worried about what he might do on one of those days. He NEVER gets violent, angry, agitated, or threatening in anyway. Don't we all have bad days?? I know his history, but this is a totally novel situation... I've spoken with him about being sad about losing our daughter, etc, and have pointedly asked him if he at any time feels like hurting himself or anyone else, for that matter. He says certainly not, and he has expressed how happy he is to be alive and have this wonderful family to come home to, and he just wants to come home.

So that's the latest. In the meantime, we wait, and wait, and wait for an opening at this county facility. It's been WEEKS since they proposed this place, and the waiting is getting to be too much for all of us, especially for him.

Thanks for listening.

thanks for the update.
yes the forums were down for a bit yesterday.
hoping that your hubby gets to come home as soon as possible....
for your sake, I am sure that you miss him.
bizi

You certainly have that right, bizi! I have an even more recent and promising update for you all now! I received a call an hour ago. It was the social worker and she had my husband there, too. She expressed to me that Tom feels that he is ready to come home, and they will consult wiith his pdoc on Monday, but they are really considering it!! She DID want to hear, from my own mouth, that I felt that he was indeed ready to come home, and I am certainly on board!! As I suspected, they were most likely reticent to D/C him, in large part, due to his suicide attempt promptly after his D/C from there in 2003! These are, however,
TOTALLY DIFFERENT CIRCUMSTANCES! I don't want to get too excited about it, but he sure seems to be. We do have to get through the week-end first, of course !

I will keep you all posted!!

Oh how exciting!!!
I am very happy for you guys!
I hope he comes home on monday!!!!!
this is great!
bizi

This is truly prayer answered! Oh, Jacquie, I am thrilled for you both. I know you're up to it because you do things thoughtfully, you ask questions, & you'll get help if you need it. One of the things I love about you already is that you're not out to show anybody anything. IF this is the time for this, then it will work out fine. We'll help however we can!

Thank you so much, Jude, you're making me blush . I already feel at home here and am so glad I have re-kindled my friendships here and also making new ones like you!! I am just a bit at upset at myself for not speaking to DH's doctor sooner! It seems like that might have gotten the ball rolling! I can't wait to go see DH this afternoon. I'll bet his mood is elevated now!

I'm not sure if this will work or not, but I am going to try to post a picture of my little dog, Lilo, with her big brother, Stitch:


It worked! I will post more pictures soon, like of my adorable Grandkids!! For now, I gotta get ready to go see DH!!

Hugs to the room, Jacquie