Thank you to you both.

I am having some problems right now.

If my husband finally in the next couple of weeks.

Gets a long term, (3 or 4 month job)

I'm going to take a short vacation, from work.

I've determined that is part of what I need.

But part of what I need is no one home, but me.

So I am waiting till it happens. If it doesn't soon, then
I'll deal and take the time with him around.

Donna:grouphug:

Gosh, Donna, when did a 3-4 month job qualify as long-term? Or is just how long it takes you to recoup?
I hope it works out for you that hubby's actually gone ....
it's so exhausting to ignore a person you really cannot stand at the moment!
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Dear Donna

I hope you DO get the chance to stay at home on your own for a bit.

you are usually so busy and taking care of everyone else's needs.

And not to say they don't appreciate it, but i can't help but wonder, maybe after a while it comes sort of automatic for you, and for them too? So then YOUR needs aren't really considered, until you get exhausted and then, WHAMMO... YOU can't help but realize it. I'm not saying i think they are inconsiderate in an ugly way, i just wonder if maybe it doesn't cross your family's mind how much you put out, and how much it requires from you day after day after day after hour after problem after issue after.... etc. I think that is pretty staple in families too.

So yeah, you listen to your own needs and take care of yourself as you would any other member of the family. Get Donna what she needs. ;):) ... a vacation including time off from under all the hats you wear between work and family and even extended family!

Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers, Donna, that you do have occasion to "pencil this in" for yourself, good and proper. :circlelove:

~ waves ~

Car Gal

In our area the Union's have been laid off for a very long time. My husband
is a electrician. He has been laid off by his union for at least two years.

Other than for short call's which is 2 weeks or less. Or once in a while
he will get a job for our Electric company, but that isn't really counting
since he doesn't make that much money.

But he has been watching a couple of places that he would be a traveler
and they have lots of work it seems. So we are hoping.

There's a chance it could turn longer, which would be great.

I had a nice massage today. Hoping it turns out to be the biggest thing
I needed.

Donna:grouphug:

I am very glad that you had a nice massage today!:)

The massage sounds wonderful, Donna. I hope the effects last a while.

(((hugs)))

~ waves ~

Why is it when my husband finally starts to think he might want to go
out to dinner I don't feel good. I've felt bad all weekend.

I'd love a nice steak, But not this weekend. Ugh.


I am really mad right now, I tried to be nice and help out a client.
He needed some help with a cat that needed to go to the vet.
I originally was going to take the cat. But he just wouldn't let
go of it for good. So it wasn't going to work.

So I helped pay its vet bill. He wasn't supposed to tell anyone,
but someone called the vet. And they told this person who paid
them. I thought he had told them. That it was not to be given
out who paid the bill. Just a friend.

Now I could get a earful, from someone. This is my case that the natural father, has lost his kids to foster care right now.
TO me it shouldn't have mattered. Ugh.

Donna:grouphug:

no good deed goes unpunished.....:(

I sent out a email yesterday. I have decided to take a month off this
case. This dad, isn't working with me anyway.

I am regrouping, from a illness this weekend anyway. So I didn't lie.

I am really taking two weeks to do mostly Vacation and in-service.

Then if my plans are like they should be, the next week I'll take a
vacation at home. And the next will be the same.

I have to work one day of both. But that way I have 36 hours I think
of banked hours. SO I can take the two weeks banked between
them.

I have 24 each week. So it should work good.

I then will be to the week I think I told them. I can work case conference's
or meet with other parents. As I chose or turn them to my volunteers.

It will be more my choice.


I can also spend that time helping Derrick.

I'm just waiting on the final ingredient. Dale getting a job.

Donna:grouphug:

Oh Donna,

i am so sorry you went through all that with the kitty and then the breach of confidence via the vet's (seems like a confidential sort of thing to me, but probably not legally and i guess they weren't informed or it never got noted in the chart.)

I just hope that you do NOT get an earful, that the foster parent will sort things out... between them and whomever might have a problem with your help.

I hope your husband's mood to go out for a steak last's long enough that you will feel well enough to take him up on it too.

WE are supposed to have a steakhouse outing soon too. we found an american-style steakhouse near us... there are a few differences in the dishes but it it's close enough so we like it well enough. we've been twice so far. We appreciate the spaciousness and informal atmosphere there too. Plus I get a chuckle every time because they have a young-sized statue of a cow at the entrance - I always stop to pet it! hee hee.

i too am concerned because i do not know if i will be ok enough to deal with the stimuli. I am not leaving the house right now. Being a family type restaurant there's high risk for at least one screaming kid... nails on chalkboard for me. so i guess we'll see.

:hug::hug::hug:

~ waves ~