I just want to cry tonight ! And then I find myself doing just that.

Ugh, I had the worst day.

First I had the mistake of putting a case conference on the wrong day
it seems. I still swear its tomorrow. My calendar says tomorrow.

But I seem to have the wrong date, I know what has happened, I
had two days reserved, waiting on a email to find out which. I got
a email, but guess I put the wrong day. So I didn't go, I was supposed
to take my dil to the hospital for a appt today. But it had gotten
cancelled.

But I got a call about 15 minutes after the meeting was supposed to
stop, so Gosh. I just didn't get to go. I was over 40 minutes away.

So I didn't go, I knew it would be way to late. And it technically
wouldn't help my parent, if I came in late. I haven't been able to
get ahold of the parent, so I have left all kinds of messages today.
He wont return my message. So, well ugh.

I am not sure if I should try to call again, tomorrow or wait. I think
I'll wait, but I just am not sure what to do.


Then this afternoon, when I get back, from picking up meds. I get
a call from my sister. Who's daughter is getting married in about 3 weeks.
I had not been going to be able to go. Its in Michigan, over 4 or 5 hours
away for me. My family doesn't seem to realize, how hard times are right
now for all our family. But with the settlement I got, I am going to be able
to go. I debated whether I should just really book, and drive all day on
a Friday for a Friday afternoon, wedding. But because its going to be
so busy through South Bend, I chose to stay 2 nights.

I haven't been able to get a commitment from my husband, and Derrick
is not sure if they will allow him to not go to school. I can work that
out. He finally told me, he isn't into weddings.

But my sister understood, that even if I said, 3 that it could still be just
me, we are pretty sure, that Dale will get a job for 3 months soon. And
if he is working, he isn't going to take off to go. Its been almost 2 years
since he has had this kind of time at a job. So its very important.

So what happens, I get a fb, message on the page, not a message itself.
From my niece, this evening. Stating, Do you know how many are coming,
My mom said, Maybe 1, maybe 3

Hmmm, if you ask me that is a answer. But she says, I have to have a answer, because I have to turn in for rec, etc.

So I called my sister in tears, told her to tell my niece it would just be me.
Since she had to have a exact number. I really shouldn't have.

I guess its back in the air in their opinion. Ugh.

I don't know we will see, I really hate going that far by myself. But there
is no way I can drive over and go with others either.

Donna

oh donna, what a day for you.
I am sorry.
You are human and mishaps happen.
Please don't be too hard on yourself.
I know that is easier said then done.
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

Aaaaawwwww !!! Stress my darling !!!! Altogether huh ? hate those days !!!

Think that thank the Lord it is over...

We all make mistakes... so sorry about your meeting... Eventually everybody involved will understand and dont be mad with you Can you meet again ??

About the wedding, ugh, I hate when people put us under stress but well, I guess organizing a wedding is not easy... At end, if you take your hubby or Derrick, maybe they can travel with you and just dont attend the wedding...

Hope you can have a good rest tonight !!! Tomorrow comes !!!

Dear Donna

i'm so sorry what an awful day indeed. i hope you hear back from the parent and that things fall into place in that regard.

i think your sister/niece will be understanding. in the end you did give them an answer, it is not up in the air.

is it the driving that is too much for you to do on your own? i realize you have pain issues. do you have any options besides driving?

sending hugs and good thoughts your way

~ waves ~

don't worry about bringing them...
numbers usually work this way.
20% of those people who rsvp Will not show up. so there will be plenty of spaces left if you bring more than yourself.
so please don't fret about that.
bizi

Oh Donna I hate that you had such a crappy stressed day. One step at a time. If it were me, knowing men would do anything to get out of a wedding; I would fly, spend the two days doing nothing but enjoying extended family. Without the men folks it is less expenses and travel so much faster and safer by plane. It is the holiday weekend.
What ever you do, have a wonderful time with family.

Not a choice to fly. I'm not going to be able to drive down to Indy,
which for me would be 2 hours. Then figure out were to fly in
Michigan to get a rental, I would think.

It would take more money than just driving is already. I don't know
if a greyhound goes that way. But after what just happened
to a family here in my area with that. Not sure I would risk that.

I don't like the thought of being routed for extra days in other towns.

Ugh, its just life,


I will drive it, but it will add more time to the drive. I am not one
that can just drive straight through.

I have to stop for bathroom, and breaks for my fibromyalgia. And I
would think it would have dawned on them by now.

That if my mother who gets out of her nursing home, on the 12th of
Sept. Is going. She isn't going to be able to drive straight through
either. And its going to take probably 2 hours less for her. But she
is sure its not going to be that much more for me. They just have
no real clue how far this wedding is away.

They will learn some day. When they drive it.


My husband has to cool down, but he should probably have a job by
then. If things keep going the way they are. And he wouldn't go
either way. I wouldn't want him to jeopardize a 3 month or more
job to go.

Derrick, isn't into weddings was his answer. And I am not surprised,
I also know that bowling will have started, my biggest problem is
still to come if that happens I have to find him a ride home.

Donna

umm....

what about Amtrak, Donna? had you thought about it?

for trip planning: www.amtrak.com

you can click Find a station, then Search by state to find the nearest station.

there look to be a good many stations in michigan... fewer in indiana... here are the lists, if you just want to get a quick look (but the station links inside these lists will not take you back to trip planner).

Indiana Stations
Michigan Stations

don't know there are close enough ones for you for both departure and arrival? that way you'd only have to get rides to the stations and back. not sure how costly it is but i'd think cheaper than flying.

~ waves ~

Donna, I'm just so sorry you're having to deal with yet another challenge, & that 1ce again some many other things entertwine. I'm glad you're able to write so clearly because that says you're thinking & reasoning clearly too. That is definitely the good news! --amid so much that's just up-in-the-air.

Not sure how many times the amtrak really does what it says in
the Lafayette office. But I could check into it. then I'd have
a whole new can of worms so to speak. My husband would be
complaining about the money I'm spending instead of driving.

He just doesn't get all this. Heehee,

I will probably just drive. Its just life right. And I have two feet,
and I drive to Indy most the time without thinking about it.

Its also to bad I can't put this together with needing to be in South
Bend, but I don't need to be. Or I'd be able to just take business
trip also.

Donna