[Mrs. Bear]

Not really though. It's getting obsessive to me. bad sign.

Any-hoo.

It is so flipp'n long and fried. I have no idea what to do with it. I'd cut it off, but I don't think that's a good idea until I am stable.

My hubby says to just go get a trim, but I think I would whim out and have them chop it.

It's layered, but it's down past my bra strap now and the shortest layers are below my shoulders. I feel like a bag lady 90 percent of the time. I really don't feel well enough to keep up with it. Can't hold my arms over my head long enough to do anything contructive so it usually ends up in a bun. With the grey hair poking through my last die job, it just looks frumpy.

I know it's hard to see in my pictures, but they show what my hair looks like when I scrunch it up all curly. So, since that is when I get the most compliments, I am thinking about a perm.

Help!

Oppinions on whether I should wait to do anything untill I can get stablized or go to the salon and take my chances? I have confused myself.

But I really can't stand seeing the white hair in the roots. I am not ready for that yet. But, if I am getting a perm, I don't want to over treat my hair.

Shouldn't be this hard to decide, but it is. My brain wiring is just too out of wack. sigh. I know it sounds so stupid, but it has me all spun and I am worried about it.

[Mrs. Bear]

These are pics of the curly hair.

[Mrs. Bear]

But from last summer. And I was goofing off.

[bizi]

Dear Bear!
I have to say again that I think you are jsut adorable!
I love that black outfit with the renasance corset vest...I think I could pull that off...don't know that I am brave enough though....

We are in the same boat in regards to hair.
I have the exact same issues that you are struggling with .
My hair is shoulder lenght been permed 5 months ago white hair showing thru. mousy brown color that is very dry and unattractive.
Straighter hair is in style these days you could pull off a shorter cut that came toward your face to frame it so to speak. a straightener iron would not take long and with your thin features this would be very attractive...wonder if I can find a picture and post it for you. Instead of blowing it away from your face you could bring it in toward your face...Does that make sense? It would be very different.

I just made an appointment to have my hair highlighted on Friday. I want to look very different, younger. I cant get another perm for a couple more months after that. so these left over curls about half way up my head are jsut going to have to do. I really don't like my originally very straight and fine hair, I was trying to grow it out and in a whim had her cut it all off last hair cut...am sorry that I did this.
anyway long story short...
I REALLLY sympathize with you sweetie!
(((HUGS)))
bizi

[Mrs. Bear]

My hair is very straight. I don't need much more than a round brush to get a little volume to it. And it's very thick, so it just hangs.

Last cut was just as you described. Because of my long face, it looks better that way. (Right on the money honey.)

The hair isn't my only obsession right now. I gained 5 pounds and I can't stop myself from feeling fat. Stupid, I know. But the obsession still stands. My fingernails are so brittle that they all broke off at the nail bed. UGLY.

I feel so damned unattractive. So thank you for your sweet compliment. It helped more than you will know.

stupid hypomania. bleh

[befuddled2]

Hi Mrs. Bear,

I like the straight hair the best.

befuddled2

[bizi]

Hey ms bear,
I have tried to eat a low carb high fiber diet for a few weeks now and it took off 5 pounds pretty quickly, the last 10 pounds to lose is the hardest so hang in there you can do this.
Do you take a multivitamin? I take one twice a day...this has helped my nails alot.
you could go get artificial nails put on they make "solar" ones that look like natural nails with out polish so they last a long time without having to have them filled in. this would help immediately with your brittle nails.
I want you feeling better about yourself...
do something fun today!
I am headed for working in the yard....(NOT IN THE POISIN IVY THOUGH)
lol

bizi

[Mrs. Bear]

I went to get my haircut and took a friend to keep me from doing something stupid.

Well, they took 2 walk ins ahead of me and she freaked, told them how rude they were and I had to get out of there. Started getting anxious. Then she flipped about how rude they were all the way to another chain. There was a 20 minute wait there so I decided to just go home.

I started having a panic attack. She got upset and I went home and bawled and bawled and bawled. She came over and got upset with me for not telling her how bad off I was. She said she would have acted differently if she had known how close to the edge I am.

First of all; I have warned everyone. I am not well. I am fragile. Please have patience. Second; why in Gods name would I want anyone to treat me any differently? I allready feel like a freak. Why would I want it pointed out to me?

No, I don't tell them how bad it is. NO, I will not stop trying to live my life the best that I can under the circumstances. But, wow. I just freaked a little.

And she was right. It was very rude.

So, I still don't have my haircut. I don't want to go anywhere other than the place I tried to go to today because of so many bad experiences at other shops. I am toying with doing it myself. I used to do it all the time.

sigh.

But I went out to dinner and a movie with my husband, with my greying hair in a stupid bun, and he says he still loves me and that he thinks I am sexy.

Guess that's all that matters.

[Mari]

Hi,
Stupid friend. Maybe she was having a day too -- one of those days when she couldn't take waiting. It happens to everyone.

Can you by any chance get your hair done during the week instead of waiting until the weekend? The weekends at the salon are crazy busy. Could you go during lunch? After work? Or an early early Sat appointment?

My friends and I have colored each other's hair at home. I'm guessing you can go buy the stuff, color your hair and be done with worrying about it for a little while.

But I think that you want a cut and possibly a perm too.
Do you have any hair dresser friends who would come to the house? That would be cool.

In the meantime, I think you look great. We tend to be harder on ourselves than everyone else is.

I know what you mean about being frustrated that the friend didn't take to heart your warnings about being on the edge. The whole reason you asked her to come was to help -- not to be the rude police.

Originally Posted by Mrs. Bear

But I went out to dinner and a movie with my husband, with my greying hair in a stupid bun, and he says he still loves me and that he thinks I am sexy.

Guess that's all that matters.

He sounds like a jewel.
M.

[bizi]

oh bear....
I am sorry that this turned out this way.
I thinkg it is only fair that we get to say we are fragile...jsut like I get to tell my hubby that I am PMS'ing...he knows to use kit gloves with me.
I also get to say I am not well...he knows that means I am feeling anti social so I have learned what words to use so that he understands.
Perhaps you could have a similar discussion and have some "key words" that she can shift gears without making a bigger scene and you saving face.
does this make sense?
I am sorry...I would do your hair if you would let me....
((((HUGS))))
bizi