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04-10-2007, 10:22 PM | #1 | |||
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Grand Magnate
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I know I am vulenble at the moment when it comes to men. It seems that I get these crushes on guys so easy. It makes me feel good and livens my spirit up but I don't want the need to feel validated by a man per say. My latest crush has cancer and while I still want to be his friend, I don't want to get hurt. I guess I'm just desperate to have anyone really to be a best friend to and one to me. I don't care if someone has cancer or anything else so don't take me wrong. I just don't want to take the chance of being hurt. I don't mind dreaming and fantazing but but am scared to death on any action because then the hurt would be likely to become worse. I just feel so all alone at times that I can barely stand it and it's the loneliness that spurs all these crushes on, especially on men who are the least bit kind to me. I guess I just needed to talk.
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04-10-2007, 11:27 PM | #2 | |||
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Oh sweetie,
of course you are vulnerable. YOu have had to put up with crap for so long and I can see how someone paying attention to you feels really good. Perhaps you can jsut keep it at a friendly level...attention is attention. If he is dealing with cancer then he does need friends. This is an opportunity to learn how to be a good friend and have someone care about you. Because you are worth it. knkow that he could be vulnerable too. (((HUGS))) bizi
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04-11-2007, 12:29 AM | #3 | |||
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Grand Magnate
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Thank you Bizi. Yes, I did think of my friend could be vulnerable too. I thought about going to his place tomorrow to visit and just asking him if he needs anything.
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04-11-2007, 08:01 AM | #4 | ||
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I can totally understand feeling vulnerable. It's okay to have a little crush on a guy, and it's okay not to act on it too. Just being friends is a good thing. I hope it turns out to be a good friendship, he definitely needs a friend and so do you. Like bizi said, you're worth it!
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04-11-2007, 11:36 AM | #5 | |||
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I think it is nice that you have a friend and a crush on him too.
I think it is a wonderful thing that you have someone, even just to talk to and be with. Cancer can be treated, I don't know what type he has, but you being there with him, makes a world of difference I bet. We all need and crave attention. I understand the part about being hurt again too. We always have our guard up, that's okay too. Enjoy yourself, you deserve it. Hugs, Nikko p.s. I lost your email to send you the jokes. So email me. |
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04-11-2007, 11:21 PM | #6 | |||
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Grand Magnate
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Thank you Pamster and Nikko.
I hope to see my friend Thursday and ask him if he needs anything. befuddled2 |
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