[Mari]

Hi,

My sister is reading this book. I ordered it to read so she and I can discuss it.

http://www.scribd.com/doc/131767343/...tional-Neglect


Here is a 47 radio minute question and interview
http://wlrn.org/post/overcoming-childhood-neglect (I will have to listen another time.) Here are snippets:
A parents' failure to validate or respond enough to a child's emotional needs . .

. . . Parents might actively discourage a child's feelings . .
. . .A child might push their feelings down. . .
. .. What happens when you did not learn to manage your emotions or be in touch with your emotions . .
If your feelings are cut off it is hard to feel joy.



http://blogcritics.org/books/article...pty-overcome1/

But consider the above statement: We can all remember... Significantly, those moments when we felt disappointed, neglected, or dismissed by our parents stay with us long into adulthood. And if there are many such incidents, we quickly learn as children how to suppress our feelings of need in order to protect ourselves. As a result, when we grow up, we may not even be able to remember having unmet needs, even though we suffer from the emotional consequences.

These include feelings of emptiness, counter-dependence, unrealistic self-appraisal, guilt and shame, self-directed anger and blame, and difficulty nurturing. Feeling compassion for self and others is also affected, as is poor self-discipline, alexithymia (a poor awareness and understanding of emotions), and even suicidal feelings.

This makes me sad. BUT I am sad most of the time.

M