[Mari]

Hi,

My sister is reading this book. I ordered it to read so she and I can discuss it.

http://www.scribd.com/doc/131767343/...tional-Neglect


Here is a 47 radio minute question and interview
http://wlrn.org/post/overcoming-childhood-neglect (I will have to listen another time.) Here are snippets:
A parents' failure to validate or respond enough to a child's emotional needs . .

. . . Parents might actively discourage a child's feelings . .
. . .A child might push their feelings down. . .
. .. What happens when you did not learn to manage your emotions or be in touch with your emotions . .
If your feelings are cut off it is hard to feel joy.



http://blogcritics.org/books/article...pty-overcome1/

But consider the above statement: We can all remember... Significantly, those moments when we felt disappointed, neglected, or dismissed by our parents stay with us long into adulthood. And if there are many such incidents, we quickly learn as children how to suppress our feelings of need in order to protect ourselves. As a result, when we grow up, we may not even be able to remember having unmet needs, even though we suffer from the emotional consequences.

These include feelings of emptiness, counter-dependence, unrealistic self-appraisal, guilt and shame, self-directed anger and blame, and difficulty nurturing. Feeling compassion for self and others is also affected, as is poor self-discipline, alexithymia (a poor awareness and understanding of emotions), and even suicidal feelings.

This makes me sad. BUT I am sad most of the time.

M

[bizi]

I am sorry that you are sad most of the time.
((((HUGS))))
You bring joy to my life, just wanted you to know that.
I appreciate your friendship.
love bizi

[Mari]

Thank you, Bizi,

I hope today is a good day for you.

Mari

[waves]

((( Mari )))

you mean a lot to me too.

You've made me laugh and cry (in a good way) and my life is just all around better because you are in it.

I know what it is like to be sad a lot. I am sorry you are sad a lot too.

~ waves ~

[Dmom3005]

Mari

Ditto three times. You bring lots of good thoughts into my life.

thanks for being you.

Donna

[Mari]

Hi,

I bought an electronic version of this book last night.
I cannot relate to it.

My sister and I see the world differently.
I do not see my growing up the same way she sees hers.

Weird. But not surprising that even though 2.5 years apart and in the same house we see things differently.

I guess I will read a little more and get back to her and ask her what she found useful in the book. I can play the big sister role and let her talk about what carp she remembers going through.

M

[Mari]

Hi, Donna, Bizi, Waves,

I appreciate your support.
Today I was very depressed at work.
Then I came home and started reading and writing here and felt a bit better.

Thank you for that.

Mari