Went to my Tdoc appointment today and could tell something was wrong. The staff seemed distant and didn't talk to me when I came in to the office.

Once I got back in the office I made mention that we needed her secretary to schedule and that's where I was cut off. She said that's somet hing we need to talk about.... I said....You're leaving. She said, it's different....the family is leaving the state. Her husband got a job he just couldn't turn down.

I've been with this Tdoc for just about 6 years. I chocked up and couldn't talk. Only a few tears fell through. She looked at me and said it's ok to react....I just looked away.

We have another appointment...maybe 2?? Before she leaves. I don't know whether or not to go. I'm going to miss her...at one point she had said that if I was not her client and had met under different circumstances that we would be friends. Who knows....maybe I can get an email so that I can stay in touch as long as I let her know that I won't abuse it.

Well it's late and my heart is broken....
Hugs
Abbie

Oh abby I am sorrry to hear this. You have been with her for so many years. I kow that you are probably in shock.
maybe you can get her email.
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

I am so sorry Abbie.

I would not be surprised if she offered you the possibility to contact her, and if she doesn't, I think it is ok to ask if you can keep in touch somehow like via email.

I left my T/pdoc just a few days ago because my being a charity case was messing with my head more and more. Even though it was a choice in my case, it is still very sad after 9 years and I feel sort of stunned now that it is "done". I have also been in the position of "forced" termination where I was moving out of state, and that was very hard... the T I had then was very warm and I still miss her - of course I did not have the shock you did... I knew it was coming.

In all cases I can say the last few sessions were hard, but important for me. I do know the feeling of just wanting to crawl in a hole, but I think it would be good to keep your last appointments. I believe it will be less hard to process in the short run, if you get to talk about it a little with this T. In the long run, I believe you will feel much better about things if you do go to these last couple appointments.

That said, just do the best you can.

I wish this were not happening to you.
My heart goes out to you, Abbie.

(((((((( hugs )))))))))

~ waves ~

Hi,

An email address is good.
Go to the last appointment. It will be good for the two of you to evaluate how far you have come.
Also, she can help you think through what to tell the next therapist.

Maybe think of the last appointment as the time when you get to say thank you and wish her well.

Mari

i am so sorry. I just left my psychiatrist after ten years and I miss him. There is a good chance you will find somebody who will help you in different ways even if they can't replace that closeness. My new one is changing drugs for me and i think it is helping. My old one kept the same things. see it might be beneficial in a way
bobby

I see the new Pdoc the 1st week of May.... but he's only there until the end of June. So no chance for any attachment there. They are having a hard time finding a permanent or long-term Pdoc.

I "think" I know who my new Tdoc will be...but then again I'm not exactly sure. Right now, I just want someone who isn't going to leave anytime soon.l

Abbie

((( Abbie )))

thinking of you.

~ waves ~

Abbie

Good luck getting a long term tdoc.

Donna

Dear Abbie,

I also want someone for you who will take a seat and stay a while.

I guess you will see this temporary guy for two sessions. Maybe try to make this into something different. Since you know you will not see him again, you can ask him all kinds of crazy questions. Ask why people become therapists and what they think of their patients.
Ask him what makes someone a good patient.
Ask what he thinks benefits people most in therapy. (Anyway, . . . .you get the idea. . . . .)

Mari

Oh I like these ideas mari!
bizi