Dear Majo,

If this guy has half a brain, he will figure out something went awry. He will most likely guess the text has been translated. If he doesn't figure that out, he might be confused, but I very much doubt he will think something is wrong with your dad.

When there is a long text with errors arising from google translator, those errors are often very unnatural and it is usually apparent there has been a translation. A native speaker, even one with learning disabilities or mental retardation, does not make the same kinds of errors.

Anyway, if he asks you about it, just explain (and make no apology, none is warranted). If he makes assumptions you can try to set him straight but if he's set in them, then I return to my first point... it would seem apparent he doesn't have half a brain - let him get lost in his own ignorance and be done with him.

Next - and in saying this, I don't mean to make light of what happened, but you already have enough on your plate so, might you try think of it this way? ...

Ten years from now, when you look back on this, you will laugh so hard they will be able to hear you in China. ;)

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I don't know how you can resolve the school stuff. Would you have money to live if you gave up on the trips (and if so, would that be an acceptable compromise)?

As to choosing classes, FWIW, I have personally found that subjects I enjoy more - even if they require more effort - cause me less stress than things I don't enjoy so much. Do you have the possibility of requesting an Independent Study as a class? You'd have to come up with a topic and find a willing professor, but then you could choose something you want to study and make an agreement with the professor as to how you are evaluated. I don't even know if your school system has this kind of option. :o

:hug::hug::hug:

love

waves.

Apparently I have found a decent class... :rolleyes: it is about neuroendocrinology... Oh I do have to learn a lot about that !

Waves, I dont know if I will laugh in ten years, but let me tell you that for today you just made me laugh hard... Do you hear me there ? :D :hug: no friends in China so I cant check... LOL I love you :hug:

Bizi, no clue !!!! Seriously... Dad likes him, he is like the son he never had :rolleyes: so he thought it would be a good idea...

Still feeling embarrased and silly... And mad with dad.

The worst thing is that this guy wont tell me anything... Only God knows what he is thinking :Sob:

glad to hear you found a class - Neuroendocrinology sounds fantastic! I want to audit it with you!!! :D:D

I am really glad I made you laugh! :):):hug::hug:

Your dad had a nice thought. I understand your embarrassment, all the same.

I would just put the matter to rest unless he brings it up... but also, please re-read post above. I added more about this matter while you were replying it seems.

love

waves

If he has a girl friend then why are you breaking your heart over him, I would end all communication, self preservation.
just my opinion. save yourself from future misery.
bizi

Well... Girlfriends come, girlfriends go. Not that I don't see your point. I do.

I agree it is ideal in such circumstances to turn away and find a good person who is available. If anything, one can say to oneself, that if this is meant to be, an opportunity to be with the (currently unavailable) person will present itself in the future, regardless of what we do and of whom we might be with.

However I also understand Majo's difficulty letting go of feelings. I personally find it hard to turn off feelings based on circumstance. My feelings do change depending on how someone treats me, but their having a girlfriend is simply a circumstance. I can avoid inappropriate behavior, out of respect for the relationship, but turning off the feelings is a different kettle of fish... for me anyway.

waves

Oh Bizi how I wish I could close chapters in my life that easily.... I cant. When he talks to me, he makes my days brighter.... with just a smile, he makes me feel happy at least for an hour :o

Like I said before, somewhere in another thread, I do wonder if it would be better to just stop talking to him... but, being extreme has always been my problem :o Maybe it is better to have him as a friend, I mean, if he cant be my boyfriend, at least we can be friends.... :rolleyes: Complicated.

waves, I would LOVE to have a class with you as a classmate !!! Oh that would be HEAVEN !!! :hug: :)

Alright, tonight I just feel like my life is completely ruined :o

Is he a student too? Where do you see him? in the lab? neighbor?
just curious.
bizi

Mayo

You are a special person, and your special person will come along. Don't let it bother you what your dad has done. Just realize that its his thoughts.

And what the guy thinks is just that.

Donna:grouphug::hug:

Majo,

Truthfully and honestly, your life is only a little bit ruined. :eek: :cool: :D
Instead of thinking in black and white, you can think in shades.

The life path might be brownish with brighter spots mixed in.
Also it is lined with beautiful colored leaves and blooming flowers.

Mari

http://i419.photobucket.com/albums/p...ps8306c015.jpg

((((((Mari))))))) :hug: :hug: :hug:

You made me smile :) Thank you for that.

You know, you are so right... actually, doc keeps telling me that.... The problem with people that has borderline pd is, that we think black and white. He gave me a pic which shows all the colors, as a reminder, of what you just said :hug:

He didnt even reply dad's mail.... Go figure.

Oh well.... case closed I guess. Im not going to ask him anything.

I LOVE YOU ALL. FACT. :grouphug: :hug: