I went over to talk to my neighbor again this evening when he was talking to another neighbor and they both totally ignored me. I excused myself and left in my car in such a hurry I left my soda on top of the dash and when turned the corner it flew at me. I had to come back home and change clothes. I went to the bar and then to get some beer to take home since I don't drive and drink.

I am not going to go down the same road with another man that I did with my husband. My husband would ignore me when there were other people around and it hurt darn it for my neighbor to do the same to me.

He can forget my butt from now on.

befuddled

Oh this sounds rude...
Sorry that you are hurting.
(((HUGS)))
bizi

Oh BF2 I am so sorry he hurt your feelings.

((((((Bee)))))),

BREATHE!! You know something, we can take our history and we can paint it onto someone else with very little provocation.

My brother killed himself. My husband tried to kill me. My son's in jail. And I don't have a thing to do with men ... except now my heart is thawing just a bit

'Neighbor' is a nice guy that you're attracted to and that you'd like to get to know better. You don't know if they were having a private conversation that they didn't want you to overhear. 'Neighbor' is undergoing chemo so his 'manners' probably aren't what they normally would be.

I've give it another chance. Lose the anger -- this man is NOT your husband. Give him another chance. But, don't put your whole heart out there. Try for 'supportive' and 'playful' and 'happy'. Aim for friendship first this time (instead of love). If it's meant to be, it will come.

Honey, don't throw all your anger at him 'cause one second with him reminded you of someone else in your life. Give him another chance.

I told you -- I have a nice feeling about this guy. He brings out some real positive sides of your personality. Try for now just being a supportive and neighborly friend while he's going through the chemo. You'll grow to know him better and see him in all sorts of situations and be able to better judge what kind of man he really is.

Even if it turns out that he isn't "the one", you can still have a friendship with him. How about considering him sort of an off-Broadway stage to practice your new skills with. What you learn and practice with him can be used later if he turns out to be just a friend and not a future husband.

Take a deep breath and remember what it was about him that attracted you to him. That's still there. Don't throw everything away for one angry instant.

One thing that you could have done was said something like "Oh, I didn't realize you had company. I was just stopping by to see how you were doing and to see if you needed anything." That would have pulled the attention to you and would have given him a chance to tell you that he'd call later when he wasn't busy.

BIG HUGS (and love).

Barb

BF, I would say not to put all your heartfelt apples in one basket...He is a man, he is not a person that we can every mold to our needs. Even my husband after almost 40 years of knowing each other and being married, never have it all together. In the flip of a moment, things or actions can speak and hurt me, HE NEVER GETS IT. THis man has known me since I was 10 years old, dated 13 and married 15 years..

he is never sensitive to my needs until after he figures out I am PO'd and he screwed up. But, alcohol on the fire doesn't help either in any situation.

Lwt him consider that you were annoyed at not even being introduced and small talk with a quick I wiil catch you later to be polite....This guy may try to be kind, but is the total package....We meet them, not rear them.

But be stong enough to know it is not you....it is him.....
Hugs and have the best day your can have,
Di

Thanks everyone.

Barb, I'm not sure what i want at the moment but what you said spoke to me dearly and I cried thinking about it.

Di, you know you have something there. Let him know I am annoyed and just say I'll catch you later to be polite. I did once tell him, "are you going to let me talk?" He looked at me really, really funny but ever since then he's given me a chance to talk until tonight.

befuddled2

((((((Bee)))))),



Barb

I agree with Barb BF, and DiMarie, they both offered some great advice, I would not give up on being his friend just yet, they might have been engrossed in their conversation and he might have just been distracted by the other person and didn't realize it was rude ignoring you. Some men are just weird about talking with other men. They get different, like they are trying to impress the other man that they're talking to.

Hang in there BF.

Give him another chance. Pamster is right. Sometimes, men do act differently when there is another man around. Hang in there.

Peace, and, Love
Cgirl

I agree too. Hang in there.


Hugs, Hugs and more Hugs, Nikko