Wow,
The baby turned 18, exciting, but She is a senior this year so it is a scary time too. Instead of a car, she wanted a Disney Cinderella doll and Hello Kitty tech items for her computer and iPad.

I knew there were a lot of agency help as a child that were available, but now even Social Security is sending the checks until she graduates to her, not me as the payee. She just would rather I take care of things.

Just because her legal age changed, her needs didn't. I am really concerned. Her SSI was refused because of our income years ago, and would be now because of the SSD income. It is received because of my disability and her Dad's retirement until she graduates in June. She has the IEP and AHEAD agency is going to help with work placement. Only until June.

Now we have to start a claim for her disability as an adult. She just started working with a school counselor, but is resistant to the need. She fights her diagx, Aspergers as the social anxiety, anxiety/panic. She is angry with a diagx as a label, but it helps understand her unique personality and needs.

I had an emotional time with her birthday when I came across photos of her with De at previous birthdays and lost it.....my heart broke. I looked so deep into De's eyes like I was seeing her. I miss her so bad, her little sister is grown up now and she is missing it.

This was a difficult physical work week for me. I am recovering from a claim yesterday. It was a tree that brought a telephone line down and it hit a man in the face. The only thing it was out in a forest area where I had to climb down and up a cliff. Then through an acre of the overgrowth of thorned bushes. The slippery rocks with the fallen leaves made a huge challenge to navigate on a slope.

My calfs are burning and in spasms.

I came in today to read what my forum friends are up to for the weekend and get motivation to gets things done while the weather is nice and whine a bit.
Tough without help.

Yesterday I made a huge pot of ham and bean soup, when I went to bed I told th family to put it away after they eat. They didn't eat any......I found it still on the stove this morning. All that work soaking the navy beans, adding fresh from the garden veggies, it hurt my feelings! Why would anyone think it was not their job to at least put the entire pot in the fridge?????

I am the maid! No one picks up afte their selves, does the towel laundry, changes bed sheets or even vacuum for me.....nothing, nada, not lift a finger. It's all on me and my broken body....I am just the ATM machine.

So it is an emotional week....but, I better at least get my sore butt moving and do something. Like starting with tossing out my soup!
I think I need to hire help....dil has not been available as she keeps dgs when my son and I work, so it's very stressful on her mental health. So i dont ask anymore.

Sorry for typos, iPad is not best way to type.
Love ya all!
Di

It sounds like an emotional week and I bet you are still sore from that work, iyou may be sore for a couple more days.
I wish you did have help...I wish you could hire someone to help you.
Could you assign chores for an allowance?
sorry I don't have children so I should not be giving advice.
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

Oh Di, I feel for you. It's hard isn't it? I hope you're able to continue getting her SSDI, and that she can get SSI on her own as an adult. I tremble in fear at the thought of my son's upcoming 18th birthday. I hope things work out. Thinking of you Di. ♥

Thanks both, Bizi I am still full of aches, glad I missed a call in voice mail to go to Philly area yesterday. No way I could have driven it let alone work it too.

My family is spoiled and lazy, they were use to me doing it all....this is a huge house and they are adults.......I have duties they need to take care of, but nothing happens if they blow them off. Unless they want gas money or makeup, then the dishwasher will get emptied, or litter scoped. Dang that needs to be done everyday!

Oh, they all noticed how "pretty" the litter boxes looked when I Did them....not just scoop, but scoure them outside, sprayed with Clorox cleanup, lined and refilled. One is a Breeze system for the girls, the boys have one corn/oat for tinkle, and scop able in the other for number 2. The fourth one has his own box.....
You know I paid $500 for a self flushing box that scoops, rinses and dries when used. They hated the plastic graduals!

Pam I hear you, it is scary, there are a few months of school left. Frustrating the gov. Shut down cutting staff at ssa office. I hope she finds coping ways and can earn a good living anything happens to us, or when it does, but until then she needs the services.
I guess I need to trust he system, a broken system, that all will be okay. Even if she continues with ss benefits, can succeed at nail art school and grow maturity and gain confidence.

On the happy side, the change to Fall is beautiful, the colors are reflecting in the lakes truly amazing. I was thinking of taking dd horseback riding, but as I am sore enough, maybe her older brother cn trail ride and I will wait with my dgs at the pony rides.

Ahhh, hot tub soak, warm nighty and my recliner re calling.

I hope you enjoyed your tub soak and are able to really rest and take good care of yourself.
bizi

Dear Di,


Maybe go on strike -- just cooking for your Husband, teenage daughter and yourself.


I love that you have a hot tub that you can use and enjoy.

Keep taking care.

Mari

you should go on strike....you are carrying way too much on your shoulders.
just do your own laundry. take care of the litter boxes but don't do as much....
your cats sound so pampered too! you made me feel guilty but i pet mine a lot.
the hot tub sounds super....spend more time in it....nurture yourself and don't be afraid too. go on a food strike also. just make meals for yourself. all this is hard to do but you will eventually collapse under the burden you are carrying if you keep up doing all that you are doing....sorry for coming on so strong.
bobby

DiMarie

When it comes to SSI when you file the paperwork for her. It will
be just her income. So if she has money somewhere put it
in a trust.

Also they will look at if she needs a Rep Payee, and if she really
feels she needs one I believe they will assign you.

I would definitely only do the things that are for you. Even the
food.

Donna

I've forgotten to put a pot of leftovers away myself, then I can only kick myself..

You really do too much for all of them, until you lay down the law and ignore the messes for awhile, they aren't going to change..
They have your number...
they know you will give in and do it so they won't step up..

Do they do their own laundry?
Take care of their own rooms?

If i need something specific done- I put a big note on the refrigerator

Hi, Di,

Fall colors are beautiful.
Enjoy them.

Our weather is mostly a change from lots of rain to not as much rain.

(I have been anticipating the time change for two almost two months now.
I think it happens a day or so after Halloween.)


Mari