It totally does sound like control issues. And honestly I was thinking in those terms even before I read this, with the post about the structural changes. I mean a bit of wood trim and some hinges to support a wooden panel is not all that structural. Oh I guess there would be an itty bitty hole where the lock goes in... Seriously though, structural changes IMHO would be if you wanted to wall up the space where the door is, LOL. A door is just a fixture. What does your dad have to say about all this? Does he just back up your mom with whatever she says or can you maybe get across to him better?

Well, different cultural background but my parents would never, ever accept rent from me. It would not be chalked up to tax purposes though. One doubt that comes to mind about your situation, and which you might need to get clear before "closing" this deal is: do they see you as a prospective cohabitant or as a guest in their home? Expectations of you and rights granted to you will be different, depending on their perception.

Good for you!

You totally rate a door, and a good, sturdy one, with a hefty lock, at that.

waves

TBI/PTSD,

My parents have control issues -- so much so that hubby and I stopped visiting them about seven years ago. When they fly here once a year, they stay in a hotel room and borrow my car so that they can go back and forth to the hotel and our place.
Control issues cannot be dismissed. For my parents, being in control (or the facade of control) is a fundamental way of coping with the world.
And, as flexible and easy going as they say they are to others, their wellbeing is dependent on having things their way.

Mari

Mari That last sentence is especially the truth about controlling personalities. BF

That's what they are called? I. Suggested those but they wouldn't help much for the noise. You are funny Bizi.

Mari, my mom has been to the pdoc and doc with me. As loving as she is, as as much of a mom as she has learned to be in my adult years, she does have the control. I think that is why despite being at the doc with me she can't see beyond her control.

I am going back to the new house this weekend and will look at it with them. Keep you posted.

Mari, I didn't know you were an interior designer! That is cool. My mom actually found a door that will be acceptable. It is called a barn door. I reminds me of a pocket door without a pocket. The noise will be minimized when we move in and have curtains and carpets and furniture to absorb noise.i am just so so happy to have a solution that she approves of and that she found too,

Waves, my dad doesn't have a voice.p, at least I don't hear it. My mom is the firepower there. I see my self as a tenant with my own space but will eat together sometimes and hang out together sometimes. They are looking at this as more as Their daughter being back at home which is why I think they see me as their kid which I am not. I keep reminding them that I am letting go of 2000sq feet and worldly possessions to live I a tiny space. Everything is something to work out...coffee, food storage space, appliance space. Ahhhh. I must have the door. Maybe she will be happy that she picked it out. Thanks guys.

Hi,

A barn door look will be beautiful.

Will it look a little like one of these?
http://www.houzz.com/interior-barn-doors
http://www.artfactory.com/garage-doo...5st-p-741.html

Adjusting to going from 2000 sq feet to what you have described is a big change but you will be able to make the change. It is freeing in a way to down size.
Also, you have time to find apartment sized / built in coffee, fridge, and yoga space and so on.

I find that an ironing board takes up a lot of space.
My grandmother used to have a folding ironing board that was built into her kitchen wall. It was so cool.

Mari

THIS MADE MY MORNING!
I am so happy for you!!!!!!!
and she picked it out!
sill the door take away space from your wall? does it slide on the out side or the inside?
bizi

I think this was her way of controlling, but giving you what you needed.
I think either she was listening, or your father had some words when
you weren't present to hear.

Love the compromise. Its the way America is.
Donna

Mari Cool. Nice pictures. BF

Hey TBI/PTSD I'm glad that things are working out. BF