[Pamster]

I am sure you all knew this was coming since we did finally hear something about it, I am not so sure this move is going to be easy to get through. Any moving stinks, I am sitting here feeling really stressed about it all because we're going to be getting a new couch and things are going to be so different, I know it's going to be better, but I am scared stiff about how it's going to work out regarding my son.

We're not moving some of the furniture, donating it to the local landfill-sigh-he is so hard on couches, they never last us long. Only a few years, so anyway, it's so hard to imagine us getting through this okay, I am afraid he's going to get outside and get LOST or HURT, it's going to rip me apart inside if something bad happens to him at this new place. It's really worrying me how he's going to take it.

We've shown him the place, we haven't got keys yet but we should soon, maybe even by tomorrow and we should be able to go do a walk through next week and maybe even start moving some storage tubs into the garage. Oh I am so nervous it's just awful, I will feel so much better when we're there. It's just terrible not knowing how something will work out, its like the grass is greener on the other side, I might find when we're there that I miss the old place we've lived in for six years...Oh I hate feeling so darn conflicted.

[bizi]

Dear Pamster,
things will work out for you.
This place will be different and all you can do is just be careful and don't try to do too much or hurt yourself, perhaps you could enlist someone to just be there to help watch him....This place is going to be grand...
I wish for you some peace of mind.
((((HUGS))))
bizi

[Pamster]

Thanks bizi, (((hugs))) I needed a good hug. I am going to have my mom there during the moving process but it's after we're there and trying to establish a new routine that I am worried aboutl. Hopefully it will be better then I am hoping for, but we'll see. For now I am just trying to get to bed and to sleep without obsessing too much over the things out of my reach so far. Mom likes to say Tomorrow Takes Care of Itself. But that's only if WE take care of things today IMO.

[Mari]

Dear Pam,
I hear you. I really do hear you.
I was posting a lot about my in-town move (about 2 or 3 miles) last fall.
After I moved, I was still posting. Moving apparently is traumatic for me (who knew!?)

I think that moves are hard for people with extra needs. We develop important ways to cope and moving kind of pulls the rug out from under them for a while. So even though we know that the new place is going to be better, we struggle through the transition. And this is worse when we move with someone we already worry about, like your son.

Please listen to me.
This move is right for you.
You and your family are going to a home that came to you out of something that almost seems like magic. (Magic and a lot of work on your part...a little worry... but you get my point....



Your guardian angel sent you this home. Don't you think that the guardien angel will make sure that you are well and watched over while you make the move?

And I know enough about you to know that you are a planner. Planners can handle things like moves. You will be good at this.
And your son will be ok. He really will. I know this.

Keep posting to us so that we know where you are.
When is the move date?

Remember this and believe me: this will be a good move.

Mari.

[Mari]

Originally Posted by Pamster

I am going to have my mom there during the moving process but it's after we're there and trying to establish a new routine that I am worried aboutl.

Hi, Pam,
We are here for you.

Originally Posted by Pamster

Hopefully it will be better then I am hoping for, but we'll see. For now I am just trying to get to bed and to sleep without obsessing too much over the things out of my reach so far. Mom likes to say Tomorrow Takes Care of Itself. But that's only if WE take care of things today IMO.

It will be better than you hope, but if it is your style to worry about the worst, then go for it. Do it your way.
All I'm saying is that in the end, you will be deliriously happy with the new house. It will be everything you want it to be.

M.

[Pamster]

Thank you Mari, I know you're right on all counts. I am a worrier but in this case I feel badly because I won't be able to help move stuff. Hopefully it will all go well, but we've just got two people helping us, my mom and dh's dad. It will be so awesome once we're there, Jackie will have a park to play on and we'll be taking him there almost daily.

You're right when you said we were sent this home by our guardian angel, I had given up on this place when I called another apartment complex to see if they had any openings and was told they didn't BUT that this other place we're approved for now did and to call there to reactivate our previous application. It was so difficult getting them all the paperwork they required but it's worth it in the end I think.

Thank you for your kind words, I feel better this morning. I know I will worry about things until we're in there sleeping there and living there, but hopefully it will not be nearly as bad as how I worried about whether we'd get approved or rejected based on our application. THAT was the most stress I have had since Jackie faced surgery on his tonsils and adenoids.

[bizi]

hang in there Pamster,
you can do this... you can do this....
(((HUGS)))
bizi

[Pamster]

Thank you bizi, deep down I know I can too, but that floating anxiety I have just won't take a hike. I think it will work out all right it's just that I wish I could be more help then just packing stuff. Times like these I really hate my physical limitations. But I have to learn to accept myself as I am, my dh and my family have, so I should too.

[Nikko]

It will all work out. Moving is stressful to begin with, and then the anxiety of everything you have to do to move.

Try and just take it a day at a time, it will all happen, and before you know it you will be all settled in.

Hang in there........Hugs, Nikko

[Pamster]

Thanks Nikko, it's hard to try to live in the moment sometimes, especially when stressing about something looming a couple weeks ahead of you like this move. I am really glad I can talk with all of you about my feelings and I really appreciate all your support. Thanks everyone!