That is a very kind, empathetic, mature and selfless interpretation of your sister's husband's behaviour. It's his loss that he can't recognize what a great brother-in-law he has.

Awww. Thank you Hockey. BF

We all know you're a great guy.

(((BF)))

Thank you Waves. BF

Steve,
Families are weird and odd set of variables. When you took bil as he didn't want you there, maybe he actually was concerned that seeing your sister would be a weak part to you, not the need you wanted to be with your own sister.

Sucks that people think they know what is best for us and it's just what they think is best for them.

I'm sorry your sister is ill. Your idea to talk to the nurse will be a nice attempt, but the hippa rarely lets any info out to family not included on a release list. She can let your sister know you called, are concerned and would like to see her.

If you could come to terms that it is their emotional time that they are being so wrong to you, they will one day awake to hurt to you, and the difficultly of keeping you two apart.
Hugs
Di

I am glad you came to terms understanding your brother-in-law is having difficulties as well. I believe this will be good for you too.


Gerry

Family dynamics can stick!
Sending Angels to be watchful with you Steve.

Di

Again I feel like I'm a outsider in the family. I found out that my niece,and her new son were in town yesterday visiting my brother in law. I didn't know anything about it until today.

I called my brother in law last night to find out if I,or we were going to visit my sister,and he said she still can't talk,and that she doesn't want visitors. I haven't seen her in three weeks.

I feel like I'm on the out side of the family circle looking in,but getting no communication.

I guess that because he didn't even tell me that my niece,and her son were there yesterday,I have to ask specific questions. I should maybe write down a list of things on a piece of paper,and go down the list,and ask questions since information is kept from me like this. I don't get it. It's like I don't matter,and can be left out of the loop. BF

It's not fair, hurtful and your BIL will have to account to someone higher then us for the behavior.
Prayers for your sister and for your heart Steve.