yesterday i let my nephew know i was very poor and mentioned a secret that has been wanting to come out for ages. It was about how my dear friend has been helping me. there was no response. that might be the end of my relationship with my nephews. It wasn't that i was asking him for anything
bobby

How did you let him know?
email or phone or in person?
bizi

I had asked my sister for help years ago and she gave me three hundred dollars. she was rich. they are all very rich. my friend who helps me isn't very rich and who offered to help me. i didn't ask her.
bobby

it was email when i told him i was sorry i couldn't give his sons presents.
bobby

I think you were appropriate. You can always make homemade cards and send those. Hand written notes are so special these days. Every one likes getting mail!
bizi

i don't even know their birthdays. i asked for their birthdays.
bobby

Sounds great bobby! have a nice day! gotta take a much needed shower. UGH!
bizi

If you asked for birthdays, but said you couldn't afford presents, then explained why, I don't see how your nephew would think you were fishing. I agree with Bizi… people don't send cards and notes like they used to and they are appreciated more, but I think your nephew will think that was your intention about asking about the birthdays.

You only sent the email yesterday. Not everyone responds to emails immediately. He also may not know how to respond because he may feel badly for you and wants to choose the right words, especially if he is not going to extend financial help.

I think he will respond. Give it time.

However, I would not mention finances to him or your other nephew again. But I would ask your other nephew for his children's birthdays to be consistent on that point.

my other nephews have older children so it doesn't feel appropriate and they don't send me pictures of them. i won't bring up money again. i made my point.
i don't know if i should write him and say he forgot to send me their birthdays.
i will sit on it. I have been working on trying to forgive my sister. it was such a horrid relationship. she was always jealous of me even though she had so much because when we were little i was the caretaker of my drunken father and in the center of things and she was off to the side even those she was two years older.
bobby

maybe you could pray about it if you want to do that?
bizi