[OhKay]

Mari, I'm so sorry about the stroke and the timing
Being a little less alert, saving you from a little of the stress of the move and your husband's anxiety sounds like a good thing, but I don't know how you got through a move under those miserable conditions

We are both adamant that we are moving, but I think part of the reason why my husband isn't motivated yet is because it's two months away and we haven't landed a new place yet. He has no sense of urgency because I don't think it feels "real" to him yet. I'll be boxing CDs and DVDs this weekend. Maybe that will help.

Sometimes I fail to take into account how much he drinks... maybe he listens, but just doesn't remember. If he gets home at 3pm, and I get up from my nap at 6, I don't always know how much he's had to drink... but it's usually a lot.

More stress:

Each infusion of Tysabri (the MS med) costs thousands of dollars. I was on it twice before, and both times it was covered by insurance at 100%. I found out yesterday that because of changes to my plan (I'm on a medicare advantage plan) over the years, it will now be covered under my prescription drug plan as a tier 5 drug and I'll be responsible for 27% of the cost. The girl at the insurance company said the "wholesale cost" of an infusion is around $2500 a month (I don't know if that is accurate, think it's higher), but that's not the same as the "allowable cost" the pharmacy can charge the insurance company/medicare. I have to wait until a prior authorization is processed and I request that the pharmacy run the prescription through my insurance before I can find out what the "total drug cost" (very important if you have medicare) and my copay will be.

I just wrote a long explanation about medicare, the donut hole, and catastrophic coverage, but erased all of it. All you guys need to know is that I'm probably not going back on Tysabri because we'd be moving into a cardboard box instead of an apartment if I did.

I guess I'm okay with that? I have little to no faith in it. But my MS has been taking a toll on me... IDK.

I'm aware of patient assistant programs, etc. I will apply, but will not qualify. Please do not post links.

[mymorgy]

I am sorry
love
bobby

[OhKay]

When the old tile from the 70s started to fall apart in our shower, maintenance just put a piece of **** cheap tub-fitter over it (which is also falling apart now), but there is still some tile visible around the top of it and a little around the sides. Thursday I decided to spray it with Tilex and scrub it again as part of my "moving-soon" list and ended up really hurting my right arm and shoulder badly. I'm in terrible pain and won't be doing any cleaning for a while if I can contain myself.

So I'm resuming the apartment search a little early so I'll have something to occupy myself. I need an outlet. I think I'm hypo, but it's hard to tell with all the MS stuff, the general anxiety, and OCD.

[OhKay]

My arm is feeling a little better, but I woke up this morning with a pinched nerve in my neck... I am a mess!!!

I was good and didn't do any cleaning yesterday. I took a 5 hour nap.

But we can add the desire to BUY everything to the desire to CLEAN everything to the list of my hypo symptoms now. I'm having a really hard time holding back with mixed results.

I can't medicate for this episode tho because any med change would cause sedation, which would mean I would be sleeping even more...

[Mari]

Hi, Kay,

I hope that your neck and arm are o.k.


Do what you can to take care of yourself.

( I do not understand manic-type-symptoms but I do hear that you are struggling not to guy and clean.)


Mari

[OhKay]

Between my arm and my neck I was a wreck yesterday, but I woke up this morning feeling much better. I'd been alternating 800mg of Advil and 1000mg of Tylenol consistently. I hate doing that... hate taking either, but I'm sure it helped. I won't be taking anything anymore.

I'll resume light cleaning as tolerated.

We have to submit a form to our current apartment management company by June 1st (Thursday) to tell them we will be moving Aug. 1st. At the bottom of the letter it just says, " Our staff will be conducting a pre-move out inspection of your apartment on Monday." It doesn't say which Monday, but I assume they mean the Monday after we give them the letter. I don't know how they can properly/fairly assess any damage before we are able to move out the furniture and clean the apartment, and how that will effect any reference another landlord asks for, especially if we dispute their assessment or bill...

I'm going to submit the form on Wednesday, and I'm going to have to make sure that the apartment is very clean before the following Monday when I expect they will be coming. There are a couple of little things on that "moving-soon list" that will need to be done. I have half a mind to rent a REAL carpet cleaner (we have a crappy little one that does nothing) before they come even though they may be replacing the rug anyway due to wear and tear and/or smoke damage. This is a new idea I haven't run by my husband yet.

I'm not happy with this situation. I have a feeling that these people are going to be ***holes, and are going to try to stick us with a big bill. Otherwise, why do this 60 days before tenants move out? I will pay for the smoke damage, provided the fee they ask for is reasonable. I just need to do some research on what is involved, and what IS considered reasonable. I will take the rest, and do the research on it, as it comes.

More stress, and more physical demands, on the horizon for me soon.

[Neurochic]

Why not ask them which Monday the text refers to either before or when you submit the form? That way you know exactly when the inspection will happen and don't have to agonised stress about which Monday they are referring to.

Is it perhaps worth looking around for local professional cleaning companies and getting a few to give you quotes for carrying out a deep clean of your apartment prior to the inspection (once you know when the inspection will be carried out)? If you really expect them to screw you over for cleaning charges then it may work out much cheaper to have a cleaning firm come in and carry out a thorough clean of the whole apartment.

Even if it wasn't cheap, it would save you having to try to do it all and you wouldn't have to endure the stress of worrying about whether you had done a good enough job (or whether you were even going to manage it at all). Even if you did manage to do the full clean yourself, its going to leave you ruined for days and days so its got to be worth at least looking into it and weighing up the cost versus the benefits to you and your husband of (a) not having to do the clean yourselves plus (b) not having all the added stress of doing the clean yourselves.

Not only that, if the Apartment Company then try to screw you over for cleaning charges, you can dispute them on the basis that you had a professional cleaning company in to carry out a full, deep clean. If they give you a written quote and receipt detailing all the work they have carried out then it will be very hard for the Apartment Company to try and charge you.

Just some thoughts - felt free to ignore if they aren't helpful.

[Mari]

When we moved out we had to give 60 days notice as well.


After we got our furniture and stuff out we had an extra week or more still left on the old place. We paid a cleaning service.

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So I just checked with hubby because I was in the new place that day.

Hubby met two cleaning woman with his key at the old place.
He said that they spent about six hours cleaning behind the oven and fridge and vacuuming and such.
They took away whatever small items we had left behind including maybe some food in the freezer and a cooler
(Hubby gave away my cooler that I used for a work party once a year!)
And maybe he or they took some trash out but there would not have been much trash I think.

This was 8 years ago. He says we paid them $160 dollars. I am
not sure if he gave them a tip beyond that.


M

[OhKay]

Thank you, ladies

And I will call the office this morning and ask which Monday they plan on doing the walk through.

I wish that I could hire a cleaning company, but my husband would never agree to that. He doesn't want to spend the money, especially since he expects they will charge us damages anyway (we are smokers). He will move things for me, etc but does not help clean at all. He has pretty ****ing unreasonable expectations of me even though I'm handicapped.

If office staff is coming for an inspection Monday, they will be looking for damages vs. cleanliness, but I just like things to be more presentable whenever I'm expecting any kind of company.

My main concern is the carpet in the "cat room." I am going to rent a powerful carpet cleaner and hope that the stains aren't as noticeable after several passes. I have no doubt anything will do a better job than the piece of crap we have. It's worth a shot. It's a small room, but unfortunately there's a lot of **** in there that will need to be moved or moved around.

There are things on my list that, left undone, could draw some scrutiny. But they are things that could be done before we move out, so I've decided I'm not going to kill myself trying to do them.

I've been trying to remind myself why I started working on this list so early... I have to spread the work out and do it very slowly so I don't push myself too hard and/or hurt myself (again). It's very hard to do when you are hypo. My mind is willing, but my body is broken

[mymorgy]

hugs
love
bobby