Actually, sending good thoughts... compassion, lovingkindness & joy to those we dislike, or who have made life difficult for us, is a basic practice within the Mahayana Buddhist tradition. One starts out by sending good thoughts / wishes to oneself & then to someone one is close to. Then one sends those same good thoughts to, perhaps, friends & acquaintances... people one knows but is not necessarily close to. Next one sends those good thoughts to people one perhaps does not really know... people we pass on the street, for example. Then one moves on to people one might actually dislike or even fear. We then visualize ourselves standing together with all of these people receiving the same good wishes together. The practice ends by sending out the same good thoughts to all sentient beings everywhere. I have, on occasion posted one of these on PsychCentral (although it never seemed to attract much interest...) Perhaps I'll post one here on NT now-&-again...

I'm so happy to hear about the progress with your leg Bobby! You've been working hard, and some improvement is still possible. I'm sorry to hear about the pain though

I'm sure that that housekeeper didn't think she was doing anything wrong when she shooed Abby off the bed to make it. Not everyone is as sensitive to our cats' feelings as we are. I make up my bed with the cats in it every morning, but I do have to tell them to get off the bed when I change the sheets though.

I know you like your first housekeeper a lot. Maybe one is enough. But I hate the idea of you doing too much

I'm sorry you're feeling so lonely. I'm glad that you are going to the senior center, still praying, and are taking the class, even though those things aren't as helpful or as fulfilling as they used to be. I'm sure that your increased eating and lack of enjoyment in those activities is due to depression

It seems to come in waves for you. I hope that things get better soon, Bobby

she was awful.she spent most of the time in the laundry room- i am sure it was at least 2 1/2 hours. then she didn't put away practically all the washed clothes but left them on the floor. She really triggered me big time. what did she do downstairs in the laundry room-watch the clothes spin? there are cameras all over the room which she knew so nobody would steal anything.
then she left the clothes bin in another part of the room and stuff in the clothes bin in another part of the room. Yes she tried to scare the cat and did. she was punching the bed and yelling.abby is still a kitten. she really triggered me.
I made a lot of progress with the leg.it seems like it is fixed.
I am going to have to clean today. the apartment does not looked cleaned. I am scared i will lose the other one who i really like.
it is not the stroke leg that hurts sometimes but the other leg. I had an attack of arthritis a few years ago.
I took a bath and cleaned some of the bathroom and cleaned some of the kitchen. I will vacuum late this afternoon. she only touched some of the kitchen and some of the bathroom besides the wash and getting tide across the street.

I believe that but is it especially hard when you are bipolar and have anger issues. I tried to pray for the cleaning woman and finally saw that she had a soft side when she talked about her son and daughter. there was something to connect to. I don't want her back. I will try to focus on her feelings towards towards her children. I hate to be taken advantage of especially when the think you are older and can get a way with it and treat you not nicely or at lease civilly. I did remind her of the two bags of rice I gave her and she thanked me

Maybe that lady was playing with her phone in the laundry room, or exited the building to smoke or something? I'm glad that you found some good in her despite the bad experience… you are a good person Bobby

Let the housekeeper you like know about your bad experience with the other lady, and explain that that's why your apartment isn't as clean as you would like rather than pushing yourself too hard trying to make up for her laziness.

The arthritis in the leg that wasn't effected by the stroke may be acting up more because it was compensating for the one that was. I hope the pain does improve

you don't like that she was watching the clothes spin? lol I did some cleaning and i will do some more before she comes and tell her. I just hope she doesn't leave me

Maybe the person you like can help give some pointers on how you can
do some things lightly that will keep helping.

But personally I wouldn't have the other one back again. Just make sure
the one you like knows what happened. I think that is all you need to do.

Donna

I don't think she will leave you Bobby, especially if explain what happened

good idea. we really have fun together. I am really trying hard to keep neater. Yesterday I found the laser toy for the cats and we were playing with the cats. she was having so much fun with abby. I also give her presents. I got a free bag with a purchase and I gave it to her. she liked it. I bought two big cans of popcorn to use for cat food. I was going to through out the popcorn but she said she wanted totake the popcorn home to the children. I have her a beautiful david dart outfit that she already wore to church and people commented on it.

I goofed when i mentioned how long the woman spent in the laundry room. she too spent a lot of time in the laundry room but she cleaned.
I think I am getting more depressed because of the holidays. I will try to go the senior center for their holiday special.. I might see my two nephews. I ticked off one when i mentioned zetia. He has high cholesterol. His brother does too.
The doctor says it usually runs in the family.
I wish i weren't so depressed. I have to physical therapy tomorrow to get a ticket to the christmas dinner. I will miss the p.t.
My social worker is going to take care of the woman. I was totally honest.
I hope I can start reading again. That helped. early this morning i dream i was in a religious serious service and i wasn't supposed to look up. weird