it feels good doesn;t it. I don't want her to take it for granted and I don't think she will. she knows I am uptight about money and that my recent spending is the result of my illness. She knows I try to save money where I can/

I feel like I ruin people buy spoiling them. I choose them as friends because they are good people, but they learn to expect things because of MY behavior. I think part of why I do what I do is because I have poor self-esteem.

Donna, I think what you are talking about with your daughter-in-law is totally different. I think that is a healthy relationship.

Yep, Kay it is. But I will treat others also. But its only because
I want to or feel like it. I may know ahead of time they don't have
the money to go out to eat with me. But I do not enjoy going by
myself all the time. So I'll ask someone and then say I'm paying
so they will say yes.

Donna

I don't think it has anything to do with self esteem. have been like this since a little kid. I would babysit across the street for two and three year olds when i was five or six. I got angry when the woman offered me candy because that I couldn't resist. I really liked doing it for free

Some of my behavior is healthy, some is not. Maybe it does depend on the person? Or maybe it depends on what kind of place I'm in at the time? IDK.

I might give Marcia some of the pants. I have to check and see if I don't like any of them much. I just opened three drawers and they were loaded. I don't know what I will do if I like them all. I can use them also as pajamas. Most of them are so soft and like jerseys.I wonder what triggered this. So far I have given her two pairs. I also will not take her out for coffee every week. too much money. I think she will be disappointed but will understand. I just gave alicia three hanging hangers. she was appreciative. she didn't throw out the garbage.'I let her go shopping since she works so fast cleaning the kitchen sweeping the floors and cleaning the floors and doing the bathroom. I figure why does she have to sit around since she works so fast.

You're so nice to those ladies!

she is a God send! she laughs so much. she loves my kitty cats. I tell her how wonderful she is and she says she knows. I love giving her things. at times she treats me like a child. I guess I need it. she is spiritual. she doesn;t have an ounce of envy in her. she is magical. she really lifts me up and makes me act as i did when i was very young. she removes my anxiety.

could she be scheduled to come more often????

bizi

no-i wouldn't need psychiatric pills if she did