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lately there has been a lot of conflict going on in my life and I can't take it. Now every time I run into cecilia since I asked her why she hit me on my scar there is tension in me but I guess since it happened there has always been tension and fear. I have been having trouble with the pharmacy and their trying to overcharge me by their carelessness. I still don't know if they corrected it. They just did it again. Alicia is tough. should I look for trouble? Now I am getting a little allergic to my cats' fur. I am getting itchy a lot.right now I am nauseated.
I didn't take my antidepressants til now and was feeling psychic pain. so self destructive. I didn't take my klonopin. My terrace almost flooded. I am so stressed out. I fought with my nephew. I think it is over with stella. the senior center is going okay though
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youare right. I can't avoid conflict. On thursday when she comes in I will tell her she forgot to clean the bathroom and will chck before she leaves. I will do it without anger but if I don't do it the anger will grow and it won't work out anyways. I just don't understand. I am very good to her. I give her things. She doesn't have to do much. I even tell her she can go do shopping. she probably thinks i a a jerk
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youare right. I can't avoid conflict. On thursday when she comes in I will tell her she forgot to clean the bathroom and will chck before she leaves. I will do it without anger but if I don't do it the anger will grow and it won't work out anyways. I just don't understand. I am very good to her. I give her things. She doesn't have to do much. I even tell her she can go do shopping. she probably thinks i a a jerk

She probably does not think much. Do not worry about what she is thinking.


I hand my cleaning lady a hand written list when she arrives. She adds to it usually -- the stuff she considers standard for cleaning.

I tell her what I want done first. For example: "These three things have to get done today first."
That way I know that they will get done.


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I do also kind of leave her alone after that to do what she considers the important things.
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but wouldn't you think that she shouldn't be told to clean the bathroom
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but wouldn't you think that she shouldn't be told to clean the bathroom
You are right.

I am thinking that there might actually be something wrong with her head/thinking processes.
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It could be that she just plain forgot, but…

Do you remember how I said that sometimes I spoil good people and then end up feeling taken advantage of?
It could be that you have put her in the friend zone and she has forgotten that her primary purpose for being there is to take care of your housework.

I think that it would be a good idea to remind her right off the bat in a casual way when she gets there that she "forgot" to clean the bathroom as others have suggested. She needs to be reminded that you can be friendly, but she is still there to clean.


If you are seeing a pattern of conflict with others lately, you may be suffering from agitation, so it's a good idea to make sure you take your Klonopin. How is your mood? Are you still up?
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I am just so tired. I am not up. I have to tell her in a friendly way
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I have the same problem of thinking someone will be mad if I say
something. And get worried and obsess with it till its done.

I hope that makes sense to you. Just from my own experience is this.

I think she will be fine with your reminder. And honestly will probably
just say she is sorry and go right to it.

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thins are progressing with alicia. I keep on giving her things. she has been buying me the big cupcakes that I love. even gave me a banana. Yesterday after the thursday lecture ends in about five weeks I told her she can still take that hour off. I found out that she prays every morning when she wakes up for her family. she said that I could pray for myself since I don't have a family. I hadn't thought of that. I thought it was easier for me to meditate on God because I don't have an intimate relationship like husband or children. she said no. She takes good care of herself. I am in a very strange mood
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People often pray for God to give them strength, etc.
I don't think there are any rules when it comes to prayers, and I think you can still pray and meditate on God

I'm glad you have such a good relationship with her because she seems like a very positive person.

How is your mood strange?
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