Quad canes are harder to walk with. A lot of people end up carrying it vs. actually using it...
I will take my straight cane any day.

They do make clips to attach to canes and forearm crutches that make it easier to rest them against the wall or other surfaces. I had one, but lost it.

How did you sleep last night?
(((((HUGS))))
bizi:hug:

i didn't sleep well. the higher dose sleeping pill didn;t work last nite. As usual I am depressed and now just afraid. I have just made a mess of my life. being bipolar had a lot to do with it

I just called one of my teachers who I think of as a holy and scholarly and gentle man to ask him his opinion on something big which has bothered me a lot of my life. How much responsibility should I take for the mess ups and how much should I blame on my mental illnesses. Hopefully he will call me back. I feel so rotten. things haven't worked out the way I thought they should have worked out

Share with us what he says if you want. I am interested in this as well.


My mother used to say something along this line: “Do what you can, with what you’ve got, where you are.”
(Squire Bill Widener of Widener’s Valley, Virginia)

He said to be honest and didn't seem to get it to know what it is like to be bipolar and get into messes. I was disappointed. I didn't think it was that simple.

I think maybe you were asking too much of your teacher, Bobby. It's hard for people without BP to understand it. He may be a very wise man, but I think the questions you want answers to are best asked of a todc or a pdoc.

Like Mari, I'm interested in the subject too. I think we all are.

I'd really like to know how much of my behavior I've been responsible for, especially during acute mania.

I appreciate your response. He seemed to see it as black and white. It isn't black and white. I have made so many mistakes because of my being bipolar and gotten myself in awful situations. My emotions get so strong.
love
bobby

My family judge me if I use bipolar to try to explain my behavior.
They say don't use it as an excuse!
About 5 years ago. I was mad at my dad and took it out on my mom.
I was vicious and hypomanic. I sent her emails over the course of a week, it was terrible.
I am so glad that she has forgiven me. I felt disowned by my sisters who judged me harshly....I did not go home for christmas that year. I took a cruise with a girl friend.
Sigh
bizi

This is coming from a lay person, who has lots of family with this issue.

My sister, who has this, honestly says very little to anyone that isn't bipolar, when she is maniac. I think I'm one of the few and its subjects she trust me on like kids and school that we talk. Her husband talks to mainly her, a friend or two of theirs. And even this during times he is fine.

Another sis who was found to be bi-polar after an cancer and treatment. Tells everyone that will listen how things are. She really is off the board for lack of another word when she is having problems. So much so that her daughter and my mother both try to get others to understand this is not her. I can tell the difference with her. And try to steer clear when she is off.

My son, well he goes both ways. Honestly I let my husband and his girl friend try to handle things now when he is bad. Only because it stresses me so much to remember the things I handled when he was a kid. But if it turns that he needs admitted and I'm around I would probably be the one to take him.

I think the things that happen when your maniac and just out of it. Are things that you can't control or even at times know it happened. WIth my son he has intermittent explosive disorder too. And memory is not with him most the time.

I am not sure these are the kind of things that help or hurt you understanding.
But either way realize you all are very appreciated and loved on this site. Especially to people like me that are dealing with family members with the issues.

Donna :grouphug::hug: