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Old 03-18-2018, 11:01 PM   #1
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Hubby and I had a "talk" that involved my crying that went on
for a long time. Also some yelling on my part. I can be thankful perhaps
that he is calm and not crazy in the same way I am.
HE DOES NOT GET IT!
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Not feeling rested or strong or capable. And do not even feel like showering except that I
have to be at work in the a.m.

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Old 03-18-2018, 11:19 PM   #2
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Oh mari,
i just read what you wrote.
I am so sorry to hear that you were crying for a long time.
((((((HUGS)))))
I wish that I could be there in real life to help support you, be a friend.....I am glad that your hubby is calm, but am really frustrated with him that he does not get it.

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Old 03-18-2018, 11:21 PM   #3
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Thanks, Bizi,


I just ran across this and somehow found it somewhat helpful:


Isaiah 40:28
Don't you know? Haven't you heard? The LORD is the eternal God, the
Creator of the ends of the earth. He does not grow tired or weary; and his understanding cannot be fathomed.


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I hope that you can get some rest tonight.
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thanks so much for the quote. it is so easy to forget. so sorry you are going through a very rough period instead of just the rough times you usually have.A lot of times lately I ask myself why
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I'm sorry that you have to keep having these talks and/or arguments in an effort to try to get your husband to understand how hard things are for you- and he still doesn't get it... and they must be so terribly draining (for lack of a better word)
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I should stop explaining things to him. It makes him feel worse and that does not help me. He's already got some issues.

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Is your husband trying, but unable to really understand or act upon what you want/need him to do?

I understand that you are considering his issues, but I think you have a need to express your feelings and keep trying to get your needs met

I'm glad you got some sleep... not enough tho
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Just thinking of you tonight.
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Tuesday, when I ran into hubby at work, he told me his throat hurt

(When he's sick I have to guess what he means.)

. . . . so on the way home I bought soup and fruit and other things.
He had a low fever/ with aspirin and some sleep it came down to normal in a four hours.
By the next day, he still felt awful with congestion or whatever -- does not explain things very well.

I guess he is feeling well enough to go to a 100% B.S. (not-required) meeting
tomorrow/Friday -- although I have advised that he stay home.


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