You do have a choice to not go see her.
((((HUGS))))
bizi

One of the things that bothers me about my friend is that she says things that are essentially lies.


It is one of the few things I cannot give people slack about.

Two visits in a row she had crappy (dirty and sticky) diet books that "someone"
had dropped off that would supposedly help with her treatment.

They were stupid but mostly I was annoyed that, after knowing her for over thirty years, she
continually lies about who comes to her house. I do not care if it is a friend, girlfriend/ lover, or someone she met on the streat.
No reason to lie to me who has known her a million years.

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I VERY gently helped her with her food issues and kept asking her to
talk about what tiny bit of diet advice she got from one of the random
doctors.


M

I hate it that some people feel the need to do that. How many years have you had to grin and bear that?

Oh I am sorry that you have this extra area of concern for you.
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

She's only been doing that for the past three years or so.


There's no reason for her to lie. I do not care what she does.



M

People who lie cause all kinds of trouble. I worked with a person who told me habitual lies, and he would not tell me later that what he said was a lie.

His lies at times threw me into head trips. I think that was what he wanted to do to me. After a while, I realized what he was doing, and I didn't believe what he would say from then until I left that job. I didn't believe anything that he said about anything. He was in the management in that store. His lying was a form of cruelty. BF

I don't feel right.

When I am relaxed I feel weird -- like my meds are off or something.

Really hard to explain.

. . . as if my arms and head and face are reacting to a med withdrawal.



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possibly paresthesia?



M

Are you saying that you feel relaxed?
bizi

Good question.
"Relaxed" sounds kind of true but I have set up my environment and
my day to be doing as little as possible and to be as little invovled
in issues / thoughts/ interactions with people. Certainly I am avoiding
taken care of things -- barely even washing myself and brushing teeth.


So I am kind of relaxed. I guess that is good.
But I feel sleepy -- as if I could reduce a one of my meds but I
have enough sense not to mess with the meds at this point.
(They are essentially the same dose as they were when I was with my last pdoc
years ago.)

M

From time to time I get the kind of "off" feeling like you are describing. I have a lot of paresthesias/dysthesias from MS, and the feeling I get is a little different. It feels like a med error/over-medication.

I can understand why you would want to cut back on the dose of one or more meds in response to this kind of experience. Things like that make me want to reduce my dose of gabapentin, but I know I need it.

I'm glad that you have made adjustments to help you avoid some of the bull s*** in life