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Old 02-21-2019, 07:59 AM   #271
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I can't believe that they even asked you if Derrick wanted to work with that guy again or not. At a minimum, he should be fired because of what Derrick (and you) went through

I hope now that Derrick has already dealt with the incident report, he won't have to relive the experience anymore, and can heal

And I hope that the next person he gets is wonderful. He deserves that. And I don't want you to have to worry about anything like that happening again
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Old 02-21-2019, 01:07 PM   #272
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I personally Am not worried about if he works with others.

And honestly they didn't give us a choice as to whether
he worked with Derrick again. It was taken out of our
hands. It just originally sounded like they were thinking
he would.

So it was fine that they told us that.

Derrick is dealing with the issues. But he is still really
stressed and upset but that is fine. He is safe and knows
it. We will deal with it. The team of experts he has other
than the person that technically assigned this person has
all responded to me about this. And talked to us. So we
will see what happens.

I think its odd that i still get very little response from her.

I am not sure how or who we will get next but we will do more.

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Old 02-21-2019, 04:56 PM   #273
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Donna,

You are a great mom.
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Old 02-22-2019, 07:16 AM   #274
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Donna,

You are a great mom.

!00% Agreed
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Old 02-22-2019, 11:00 AM   #275
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Thanks ladies for the votes of Confidence.

I've been sending some really interesting emails the last few
days. I've sent them to the whole team of people that deal
with Derrick. Yesterday I started sending them were they
had to mark them as received and read.

I have one person the mainly most important at his provider place
that was refusing to talk to me for a while. I was getting a little
irritated before. But when I hadn't heard from her on Wednesday,
then Thursday. I decided when I started sending on Thursday,
I would just start requesting a read receipt, and send to her supervisor,
and the supervisor of the work person, this particular supervisor used to
get Derrick's things a lot anyway so I knew his person wouldn't think
I was targetting her, but I even went as far as to let her know I was sending
just to make it not look like I was singling out the other person. It had
nothing to do with her work.
Any way I heard nothing again yesterday from her, and it was irritating me.
But then last night, I decided after hearing Derrick say that he didn't trust at this point anyone, but his old person who has no hours there, and her twin sister who has a few. And has offered to do his hours. So I sent the email to the whole group again. And her immediate supervisor was included this time. this morning her immediate superviser was the name that popped out at me when I opened my emails. It was a I am sorry he had the Purdue experience I had read the incident report. And I will let Shawnon do his hours. If she will do them. THen I find the other girl his person in charge. WHo has no one. But has answered finally after weeks of asking all my questions.
As because Derrick has already big eye smiles asked me to thank Paula the other supervisor I forward her email, letting the whole team know she has okayed the hours. And this is what Derrick wants. And its what I expect.

And then I send Paula a very nice, email from Derrick and I telling her how
I was so happy to read him her email. but the best part was to see for the first time, the big bright eyes and smile in them from her words.
And she responded back right away. With very nice words about me.

Wow, it was the best thing that could happen for me today. I really love this lady. She tells me she hopes to meet me one day. Not remembering we have meet a few years ago when I set them up for Will.

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Old 02-22-2019, 06:45 PM   #276
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This is awesome!
I am glad things are working out.
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So happy to hear that you and Derrick are feeling better about things.



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Old 02-24-2019, 08:49 AM   #278
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You are just a tireless advocate for Derrick. He's so lucky to have you for a mom. I'm so happy that after all the work you put in, he got what he wanted, and is so happy!

If what you just relayed about what you did for Derrick is any indication of what you do at work, you must be absolutely fantastic at your job, and your kids must be very lucky to have you on their side
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I have to admit, I wasn't sure the middle of last week that I even really
wanted to work any more. It was such a hard week. But today I
finally feel a lot better. I knew it was the stress of everything going on.

I've still got a couple things I need to re-schedule from cancelling last week.
One being the medical alert. That I'm contemplating putting off till he
moves into his new house. Because I'm afraid we would just have to call and
have them move it again then. And I'm honestly not sure I want to do it twice.
I'm thinking of doing it this summer when we might have some of the changes to his house finished and could do the medic alert then. I'm thinking of
calling the company next week and explaining the situation and just extending the wait. Its just that I'm thinking we might need too.

The next thing is I need to catch his checkbook, and his SSI up getting his
paycheck's in. Which I've got ready to do. So I'm caught up there. I feel better there too. I've gotten fed up with the government here, because they seem to be slacking. So I've kind of wondering why I'm turning it all in when they don't seem to want to do their side. But I know its the person who is doing his case or was. Not sure who does it now. I'll take care of that tomorrow or Friday. Or so.

I have picked up many cases, I have 5 counties, and I've picked up 2 cases in at least 4 counties and 1 in my own County. I believe my big County I might have 3 new ones. I've kind of lost count I need to figure it out. This is the biggest almost week I've had. Its weird, we all have been saying its been slow. And its just snowballed this last almost week. But that is okay. I needed something to do. So I've enjoyed it. A couple are real problem some cases. And then, one hasn't gotten anything to me yet.

Then I did got to spend the day with Dan, Kortni and Harmony. It was a pleasant day. They have been spending time together more and more. I'm seeing much more of a calm Dan, and Kortni is willing to have him do things with them. Like Friday he is going to Walmart to get the month of supplies, then Monday she has an ear appointment, she is taking him with her to help with Harmony. Which is almost not heard of. He usually is not helpful, more a problem. She has been helping him this week, he pulled a bad tooth, but left the roots in. And she helped him make an dentist appointment today. And then is going to take him on the 11th of March. They had re-scheduled from the 6th of March. So that is good. I hate dentist, so it would have had to be my husband otherwise. She will help him go to urgent care if it gets infected and he needs antibiotics before. And its in pain. But its the best they have been in probably almost the two years since Harmony has been here. Its been a nice day.

Derrick had a great two days at work, he also told his behavior therapist all about last week. And she told him he did all he could and did it right. So he felt better. We are just in limbo right now till things are set up for his new provider and he is fine with that. So all is well for two of my son's and I think
it is for Devin too. So this long book is ending right now.

My head and neck is lots better today, I finally got my tension headache under control yesterday. So I'm good. Everyone have a great end of February.

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Donna, you are so good at what you do. am sorry you thought that things were not good and that you thought of quitting.
things work out for a reason.....
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