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Old 08-30-2018, 03:56 PM #11
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I'm sorry. I wish that they would be that easy to talk to, but they aren't. My bol is very strong. They seem to only want to talk to me on the internet. That way he has all of the control. He has not talked to me on the internet in a while. My niece requests emails. If I'm upset by what they say, they have it all written down in the email, and can print and save it for further action, or punishment.

I was moved up here first because the property that I lived on in the capital of my state was being sold. Now it's happening again. My sister has passed away. I remember my sister told me that these things will never happen again. I've heard things being said when I was talking to another person in the house. He's retiring in 3/4s of a year, and he doesn't want me around. It's like he's built a wall between him and I and I don't know why.

I have become very depressed. My case manager says it's very weird how they don't talk to me. I forgot how she put it. The whole thing is about money I believe. He asked my former case manager to find a place for me to live. I'm positive that he wants to move me out into the system.

I don't know how he got permission to talk to my former case manager. My new case manager found the information. He wants me to move out, and there's nothing that I can do about it. I'm having kidney problems on top of all of this. My niece said he wanted to move me out when he found this out. I think that it's all about the money, and hearts have cooled off about me in the family.

I sent an email to my niece's husband to ask for help with programming a phone this week, and I got an unfriendly email back from him. That was the first time that he was unfriendly to me. I think that my bol is talking to them, and slowly turning them against me. I know what I've heard from my case manager about what my former case manager said about him wanting to move me out. My niece said that he wanted to move me out when he learned that I have Kidney disease. So these things are not my imagination or paranoia. BF
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I think I'd remind the case manager, to remind your former case manager
that Hippa is in effect. That he isn't allowed to share any information with
anyone about you. That its against the law.

I think I'd also be asking how this former case manager got that information
also. Because it shouldn't be something they have either if not on your
case now.

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I've been going through a roller coaster of emotions. I've gone into deep depression, fear, and the combination. I've been angry today. I was shaking for about an hour Thursday night. BF
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I think fear is turned into anger for you.
Change is hard but inevitable.
Try to calm yourself today.
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I always try to calm myself. I never want to be upset. It just happens. With what I've been told recently, it would upset anyone. I was depressed today. Very depressed. BF
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BF,
Some time back; I was dealing with many issues including a loss of someone very dear. My daughter said to me; "Give It All To God; then... Let Go.....Let God.

Meaning letting go as best you can of the fears that are so difficult to deal with. I needed to Let God take over. Give it all to Him.

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Breathe some deep breaths and then inhale in and out quietly. I know you read Scriptures. You have many favorites. Let your mind absorb and think of what the meaning is saying to you. Remember, you are never alone.

You are very dear and will remain in my prayers....


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I always try to calm myself. I never want to be upset. It just happens. With what I've been told recently, it would upset anyone. I was depressed today. Very depressed. BF
I am sorry if I upset you.
I did not mean to. YOu have been under a great amount of stress, with your kidneys and such.
To have this happen to you ...must be awful.
I am sorry that you are in this predicament.
I would be a mess.
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I think I'd remind the case manager, to remind your former case manager
that Hippa is in effect. That he isn't allowed to share any information with
anyone about you. That its against the law.

I think I'd also be asking how this former case manager got that information
also. Because it shouldn't be something they have either if not on your
case now.

Donna

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I am so sorry that you're having to deal with this as well as your current health problems.

Donna brought up some very good and valid points. What your former case manager did was illegal. And you have rights.

I'm not sure if you have an attorney but you can call Legal Aid in your state/county to speak with someone who can help you. Here is a link to help you find what's available to you. Cost is based on ability to pay so you may qualify for free services. If you click on the "contact us" button it will take you to a page where you can share your contact information and also describe your situation/problem.

legalaidlegalservices.org

I know this may seem daunting and overwhelming but just finding a venue that can truly help you can make all the difference. Things can and will get better. Sometimes you just have to know where to look and know what your rights are.

Praying for you.
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Dear BF,

You have every right to be angry. You are right when you say that ANYONE in your situation would be experiencing the same feelings that you are now... fear, anger, anxiety, and a sense of abandonment are normal reactions to everything that's hanging over your head. I'm so very sorry that you have to deal with all of this. You deserve to be treated so much better

You are a kind and sensitive man, and I know that you don't want to be upset (or upset anyone else), but you are being treated badly, and I think that you should allow yourself to experience the emotions you are having to a certain degree. It's unhealthy to bottle everything up, but I think that it's also important that you take steps to control your anxiety right now, too

I'm happy that you find so much comfort from your relationship with God, and that you feel comfortable reaching out to us. We will always be here for you

By law, anyone can tell your case manager, therapist, etc anything they want to, BUT those providers are not allowed to provide ANY information about you AT ALL back unless you have signed a release...
That can be useful IF your providers are adhering to the law, because they can get information about what your BIL's intentions are, and relay that to you, but he doesn't get anywhere by trying to find anything out about you.
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