Gee,

I think you hit the Mark on the nose.
Each time he sits down for an game online or otherwise. Or just internet.
Record the time he starts. 2:30pm say,
Off 5:00 pm for dinner, 5:30pm back on
11:30pm off bed.

Do the same for you. Also record when you make meals as off time.
Record cleaning as off time.

If you wanted to watch a movie or show with him but he wouldn't record that.

Also do not record his work time online, it doesn't count.

When it comes to your writing time. Yes record it. But state, I have no typewriter, and don't like writing out so I'm doing on the computer. (Non computer) internet time.

Show him why your on. And also show you will make things but it's give and take both ways. Kind of like Bizi and Jeff do. No he won't get that but you do.


Hoping this makes sense

Good morning donna!
You make perfect sense!
love bizi

Thanks Donna! I am trying to do this and will continue trying. uhhh, i forget what time I sat down just now to the internet and when cooking stopped...man, cooking was at least 2.5hours, so maybe 3hrs and I've been online now almost an hour? (sounds fair enough) I didn't track his internet time today this morning. Probably on and off for an hour or hour and a half....similar to me. And yeah, of course I don't count his work hours in my records, but for arguments' sake, like if he's worried about me sitting around inactive or my eyes...well, he has that same problem too...but you're right. That doesn't really count.

I guess the hardest thing for me is the showing I will do things or "make" things, because I'm pretty sure I do that and he still doesn't give as much, IMO...and always has one excuse or another when I do bring that up.

Kinda not exactly sure what to write in my journal for today. Kinda still seeing where things go. We cooked together today relatively peacefully, but there was still some bickering. Not sure how the night is gonna go in terms of "intimacy", which is so nervewrecking and frustrating for me when he expects to do things when I'm not in the mood. (hope this isn't tmi for anyone) so...to be continued.

best!

gee,
as long as you are a consenting partner, I don't see a problem posting here if you want feed back....Hubby and I have not had sex in a very long time....years! I have no interest, and neither does he.
We give each other peck kissed and hug often when he comes home from work. We have our own rooms. take care sweetie.
bizi