Hello Friends,

My sister told me tonight that she found out tonight that my mother had a complete hysterectomy sometime last week. Mom and Dad didn't tell anyone.

My sister lives across the street from them on a cul de sac. When she and her husband went to see Mom and Dad for the usual dinner on Sunday my sis noticed a few things were different (Dad buying take out barb b que, Mom using the dishwasher..) but didn't figure out that Mom had had major surgery a few days before. And Mom and Dad didn't tell her.

I telephoned Mom an hour after I heard. I'm still not clear on details but she said that drs. found a 10 cm cyst on one of her ovaries. The surgeon took everything out. Mom spent one night in the local small town hospital. She is 66.

I've been in contact with her during this time via phone. We talked about the Astros and drug rumors, the smells in my apt, the Yankee/Detroit game...but not her surgery and what she is going through.


OK. My point in telling you this is that she is serious when she says that she doesn't understand people making a fuss about their health. I'm figuring out that she is not the sharing type.

I'm not sure who is weirder: (1) my mom for wanting to keep major surgery a secret from her two sisters, four brothers, four children.....or (2) me for talking about my health here on the forum and to other folks.

I can see more clearly now why I had a horrible horrible visit with them in July. I clashed so badly with my dad that I decided I might not visit and stay with them again. Next time it will be an overnight in an hotel.

Thanks for letting me talk about this
Mari