Hi,
I broke up with Dirk. I am fine. I couldn't take his drinking, insecurites, paranoia and lies.

Took me a few months to realize all this crap, but I cannot live like this, and I don't deserve to.

Now just waiting until he moves OUT, should be ASAP. At least I hope so by the end of the month.

Hugs, Nikko

so sorry, but glad you saw these issues before getting too entangled or too invested emotionally.

((((((Nikko)))))),



Damn straight -- you don't deserve it. Glad you realized it.

Now you can start focusing on what you DO WANT. I can't wait to see what kind of life you are going to get when you focus on YOUR WANTS -- you are going to be kicking @$$ and loving it

BIG HUGS (and love).

Barb

you have such a winning personality that you deserve the best. If only you could meet a dog lover. That is how you might meet somebody deserving of you. YOU ARE SO BRAVE....BRAVO
BIG HUGS
bobby

Wow!
I hope he moves out sooner and hope that he isn't being a jerk to you...
YOu deserve to be loved and treated well.
period!
((((HUGS))))
bizi

Nikko,

I'm sorry to hear things didn't work out but it is better now than later. Hugs to you my friend.

befuddled2

these are things that will not change over night...you are right you deserve to live better...and that is why the red flags all came up.
You will never lose our support.
We care about and only want what is best...but ultimately it is your life and you get to live it.
WE all have our doubts and areas in our lives that need attention...
I certainly have my issues.
thinking of you today.
((((HUGS))))
bizi

Nikko

Follow your heart, but please listen, to your mind.

Sincerley goog luck, but be opened minded.

David

We all just think the world of you, want the best for you.

And were going to stand behind you no matter what. But you
will probably be reminded many times to be very very careful.

Thats just what friends are for.

Donna

Nutshell bizi. lovely.

Nikko, we just want what's best for you, and are outside of a situation you are inside of. our perspectives are limited, and we are not you, nor in your shoes. Goodness knows i have made some huuuuuuge mistakes. it happens.

what we think - or fear, really - is that you will be hurt again. i for one don't want to be a "yes-man" to you, just for politeness.

we are here for you period. not to judge you. to suggest and remind and comfort. we will rejoice with you or cry with you, as things go... but we will not judge or reject you or think less of you.

also try not to judge yourself. You are doing the best you can. You are keeping up the counseling. You are opening your eyes and that is more than a task, it is a process, and it is hard work. I admire you for keeping up with this. This is one way in which you are already taking care of yourself.

another precious nugget:
a tender hug and best wishes

~ waves ~