current estimates of sociopathy/psychopathy is 1 in 25. or 4 in 100 persons.

Narcissists differ from sociopaths slightly. Narcissists may have a conscience.
or what resembles one.

However most sociopaths are narcissists too. They share the trait of not having empathy, but all sociopaths lack conscience and remorse. There have been studies done with PET brain scans and sociopathy.
Sociopaths do not react the same way to emotional words like love, hug, cry.
Normals light up differently to emotional words.
Sociopaths and normals light up the same way for book, door, etc.
So new thought is that empathy cannot be learned. Narcissists and sociopaths do learn how to MIMIC feelings and they do this to con you. They are very good mimics and actors, but in the end, they are usually found out.
It is best to understand them, so you don't get really deeply hurt. Both sociopaths and narcissists do not feel love the same way as normals, if at all.

There is a very good book (I know I read alot) about this subject:
The Sociopath Next Door.
http://www.bookbrowse.com/reviews/in...ok_number=1530
Gives very chilling examples.

The word sociopath brings to mind criminals. A certain number of sociopaths become either white collar or violent offenders. But many are neighbors, coworkers, friends. These are the ones who steal other wives/husbands from their friends, make up stories about people/gossip bully etc. There are many types and degrees. Just like the label Bipolar is misused, so is the word sociopath.

I don't know what she is or what she's become but I'm so upset about this.

I made a big mistake. I'm trying to figure out what has happened so I went to the forum and posted just that some have deleted me and I don't know why. What have I done? I titled it "I need to say something".

That's all I said and this is the reply I got......

Doh, BJ!You all know just what a bad taste messages like this leave in everyone's mouths! You know these bombshells just drop like unleavened bread.... Well, I can't think of anything clever.... and I'm so far away.... Anyway...

If you're hoping to get any responses to this, this one is probably the only one you'll get, because except on TBR when we were pushed to the limits.... nobody in his right mind replies to stuff like this! Just wanted to say that to you....

And the next reply was "Don't reply to this".

I know it was stupid of me but I'm just looking to see what went wrong. How could one day everything be fine and the next I'm turning my back so go away? I can't shut off friendships like a faucet. I wrote a long PM to her thinking I could contact her that way but after I saw this I didn't bother.

I just don't know what I've done.

I am sorry that they continue to be cruel to you.
Please delete this site from your favorites and have nothing to do with them...they are not healthy for you.
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

Dear BP?

Please trust that you have done everything right.
For some incomprehensible reason, she stopped being nice to you and is unwilling to talk about it.

I'm sorry that you are dealing with this breakup.
It sounds like you are hurting and grieving.

Mari

Well I don't have to worry about going to that forum anymore because I can't. I just tried to go there and send her a PM and they've banned me. I guess it's truly over now. I was trying to write something to her about my feelings and wanted to send it to her but couldn't think straight. I found this poem that says it all nicely and I was going to PM it to her....

Losing a Piece of My Soul

I came to you the hour I was in pain
Looking for answers, I cried to you in vain.

I shared the many skeletons hiding in my heart,
I knew then you'd be my friend,
I knew it from the start.

Troubles ran like rivers, flowing through my life,
You picked the pieces up and help me through my strife.

When home wasn't home to me no more,
You opened up your heart, and opened up the door.

We cried into night until the early morn.
We solaced each other's pain and shared our many thorns.

As time flew, the air grew thick,
I saw our friendship fading, and my heart grew sick.

The day had arrived,
When it was time to say goodbye.

Now I sit alone,
reminiscing the past I'd blown.

I have to try to sleep now. It's 5:30AM and I haven't slept a wink and I have an interview at 9AM. I'm a nervous wreck and hope I can pull it off and not feel so blah about myself (for lack of a better word).

Good luck on the job interview BJ.

Dear BP,
That's a powerful poem.

I hope you slept a little and that you do well in the interview.

Mari

Thanks for the good lucks. I gave up on trying to sleep. I just took a Klonopin to help calm me down before I get in there. I just need to let all this hurt go and try to land this job. Then I'm having this darn VNS turned on again. I'm not coughing and hacking as bad as I was but I'm still congested. She wanted to turn it back on yesterday but I begged her not to because I'm afraid the interviewer will hear it.

I hope you feel better soon Alffe and also you Curious

Hi,
You can hear those things?
Wow.
Let us know how the interview goes.

Mari

I hope you take a nap, and get some rest.

I have found that when I am upset/hurt, or confused, I try to think and reframe the experience.

In this case, think about how you would feel if you just missed getting hit by a truck, either in your car or stepping off the curb. At the last moment, you missed the accident. Your heart may be pounding, you may be sweating, but you are safe.

Well, emotional/psychological disappointments can be like that too. In this case you just missed being hit by a CRUEL/Narcissistic truck. So while you have the physiological effects from the hurt... you are safe really now. The neurotransmitters are pumping away, but have no place to go for now. They will diminish and you will feel better with time.

If you want to read about others who have been hurt/abused psychologically, there is a website by Dr. Irene. It is quite interesting.
Just Google her, and you will see.

I hope you are feeling better, as time passes. Give time a chance.