As you know my oldest brother and I had been exchanging a few emails back and forth this month. He is a complete lunatic and contradicts himself; however what really bothers me is to hear him admit what I already know about him. I'll type over the part of his email that bothers me.

"Nothing would make me happier than to know you were truly independant and didn't need me or anyone else" and that simply means I would be happy to know you were independent (emotionally, financially, transportation wise, etc.)

I suppose that when I get down in the dumps and feel sorry for myself at times on count of it just being me to look out for me it's because of how my family is. How can my brother say that to me when he's in Georgia and I'm in Virginia? I wrote him back and let him know that so what if I needed him for any of that? I've only asked him once in our life time for a small loan of $35 to pay my car insurance to which he said no. I don't ask him for anything. I could just cuss him out for hurting me but it's better to just forget him.

befuddled2

Wow.
no wonder you are sad.
We become interdependant with other people whom we care about.
I need them in my life because I want them there...I love them.
You pay attention to people you care about.
And if I remember right you are living independantly.
bizi

Thank you Bizi and yes, I am living independately and have been since leaving my abusive husband. At times I get sad that all I've had is myself to rely on.

befuddled2

Dear Befuddled,

Hugs

Family is difficult.
So are the other things you are going through.

But remember you are transitioning now. Your life will get better. You have been working hard and doing what you want to do for yourself.

M.