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06-19-2008, 10:14 PM | #1 | |||
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deep breathing
relaxation techniques call a friend, your therapist or a crisis line try not be be alone (visit a friend, go shopping, etc.) take a hot bath listen to music go for a walk write in a journal some people find it helpful to draw red lines on themselves with washable markers instead of cutting themselves hold ice cubes in your hands - the cold causes pain in your hands, but it is not dangerous or harmful (some people find it relieves the urge to harm themselves for that moment) punching a bed or a pillow (when nothing but a physical outlet for your anger and frustration will work). scratch draw a picture on a thick piece of wood or use a screw driver and stab at the piece of wood. (can be another physical way to release your emotions without harming yourself.) avoid temptation (i.e. avoiding the area in CVS where the razor blades are kept, etc.) try to find your own creative ways as outlets for emotions. learn to confront others/making your own feelings known instead of keeping them inside go outside and scream and yell take up a sport (a form of exercise can help you release tension, etc.) work with paint, clay, play-doo, etc. (the person who suggested this mentioned that they would make a big sculpture and do whatever they wanted to it. They said it was helpful to calm the urge to self-injure, plus it gave them some idea of what might be underlying the pain. draw a picture of what or who is making you angry instead of harming yourself, try massaging the area you want to harm with massage oils or creams, reminding yourself that you are special and you deserve to treat yourself and your body with love and respect go to church or your place of worship wear a pipe cleaner or something that will fit on the places that you injure. break the object that you use to self-injure as a way to show that you have control over it. write a letter to the person(s) that have hurt you and express how they made you feel. Theses letters do not have to be in perfect form and you do not have to please anyone but yourself. You do not have to give these letters to the people, but it is a great way to release the feelings that you are carrying within. After you write the letters, you can decide then what to do with them. Some people find destroying the letters help (i.e. tear them up, throw them in a lake, etc.) do some household chores (i.e. cleaning) do some cooking try some sewing, crossstitch, etc. recite a poem, prayer or anything else familiar the comforts you multiple times write down all your positive points and why you do not deserve to be hurt write in your journal why you want to hurt yourself and if you have hurt yourself, write down what caused it to happen so in the future you can prevent it from happenings - or find out what your triggers were Play some kind of musical instrument. Even if you don't really know how to play, picking out tunes is a way to concentrate and help get rid of the urge to harm yourself. yoga allow yourself to cry. Getting the tears out can make you feel better. It allows the inside to release, as opposed to self abuse. Picture your "ickies" pouring out as you cry. Take a shower write down a word best associated with what you are feeling (i.e. horrible, sad, lonely, angry) and continue to write it down, over and over. Sometimes when you do that, the words looks silly etc., and it puts humor or a smile in your life. sing a song on what you are feeling. It's another way to get it outside. Shout if you are made, etc. Let the words just come to you. Scribble on paper. Clutch the pen in your fist. It's a way to diffuse it on to paper. (Get a few sheets so they don't tear.) Take item you are self injurying with and use it against something else. For example, if you are using a razor blade, rip it across a towel. Sometimes seeing what "can" be done to an object can make a person think twice about using it on themselves. Can also give the feeling of "doing it"...the tangible aspect. Make a list of reasons why you are going to stop cutting. Every time you get the urge, read the list to remind yourself why you shouldn't. Also remember to put on that list that you do not deserve to hurt yourself. You are important and special and you do not deserve to be hurt. Concentrate on your breathing - take slow, deep breaths, in through your nose, out through your mouth Take a bubble bath Take a shower Massage your body, put body glitter / fake tattoos / jewellery / henna on your skin. Remind yourself your body is special. Go for a walk Listen / dance / sing to positive music Pay attention to your body - think about how you are moving Watch some mindless tv / read a book Do something creative - eg draw, write poetry, play with playdough, practise a musical instrument, sing, do some gardening, write in a diary Make something (craft, needlework, etc.) Make a compliation tape. Start with music that expresses your emotion *now*, and work gradually through neutral to positive and upbeat music. Do something FUN!!! Make yourself as comfortable as possible - curl up in a chair with soft toys Touch something familiar/safe Carry tokens to remind you of peaceful comforting things/people Create and use mental safe places (beach, cabin in the woods, peaceful mountain) Repetitive reality checking (It's March 2003, and I'm going to be ok) Ask yourself how you feel, think about why you feel like that, and write it down Notice and avoid black and white thinking Allow yourself to cry Allow yourself to ask for help and express your feelings. Use washable red markers to "cut" on your skin Place your hands in freezing cold water, or hold / suck ice cubes Wear an elastic band around wrist and snap it when you have the urge to harm yourself Tear up paper (old phonebooks, newspapers, etc.) Alternative between cuddling and punching something soft, the bed or a pillow Plan regular activities for your most difficult time of day Clean the house Leave the room Talk to someone safe - via email, phone, in person - try not to isolate yourself. Help someone around you (reach out on a bulletin board, newsgroup, phone list etc.) Go to church or your place of worship; pray or meditate sources take out Christmas decorations and look at them hang up a stocking and put some goodies in it for when you dont hurt yourself and after the epissode passes empty the stocking take a toothbrush and polish and clean all your jewelry polish something tarnished like a brass lamp and keep buffing until its shiney get a bag of balloons from dollar store and blow them up till your out of breath and then get a striaght pin and pop them one by one and then do it some more! One of the best things for me is to hold my dog or my cat. Although I have several pets, I am blessed with one dog and one cat who each just love being held on my lap, and will stay there as long as I need them to, and they seem pretty sensitive to comforting me, and I feel like they understand when I'm feeling bad, and I don't have to find words to explain it to them. A soft toy animal might not be quite the same, but I have gotten a lot of comfort that way too. IT may sound insulting but try this. It's simple. Easy and requires the least bit of physical effort. DONT DO IT! For real, being a "recovering" self mutilater I have been through the ups and downs of urges and than the regrets. Like a crack addict we suffer from the same affliction. An addiction I call it. Something to release the pain. What are you supposed to do instead? Be creative. I know what helps me is writing it out word for word what I am doing and how I am doing it and what I am feeling. So the whole mental process is captured on paper and physically there are no cuts for people to gawk at. If you are desperate and really really want to quit, you should be willing to try anything. Once you get time under your belt (just like in AA) it does get a little easier. If all else fails, tell yourself that you will do it in ten minutes. Wait ten minutes. If you still feel the urge after the ten minutes give yourself ten more. THIS IS ACTUAL EFFECTIVE. Results vary however. If ten minutes is too long, start with five. Remember the reasons why you don't want to cut helps to. For example for me, I know that working in a public place in a management postion dealing with people in a small community in the summer time can not support such coping mechanisms. It does suck though once the thought gets there. It becomes a compulsion. An obsession. But REMEMBER FIRST AND FOREMOST YOU ARE IN CONTROL. Do you want to be an actor in the play or the director? Life is your script to write. Whether you write your own script or follow another's is up to you. And there are no rewrites. move around fervently while yelling loudly. you will get exhausted soon. break something that is yours and you dont value. What I've done ... 1) Write - write anything, write poetry, write words 2) Draw - same thing as writing, just let your hand move around 3) Watch a funny movie 4) Go outside 5) Go people-watching (seriously, watching other people leads to all sorts of interesting observations about human behaviour) 6) Have a nap (when I wake up from a nap, I have to actually struggle to remember what was causing me such pain before) 7) Come on to PC (I've done this - just being here makes me feel a bit better) 8) Like Jeopardy - Phone a friend! 9) Wash dishes - hot water doesn't burn your skin, but it can give some amount of relief and you get the added bonus of having clean dishes! 10) If you've got a pet animal - spend some time with it, talk to it tell it how you're feeling - animals usually really like to listen or they're attention hogs and you'll be so busy catering to their whims that you won't have time to think about it! 11) Look through (non-triggering) photo's of your past - of friends and family or other pretty pictures. 12) Listen to music - loud music if you need to - sing along out loud if you want to as well! 13) Scream out loud or tear paper (old phone books work well) if you're feeling mad 14) If you're sad - allow yourself to cry or if you can't, watch a sad movie 15) If you're anxious, try to locate the source - write it down, as many times as needed - create a plan to solve the problem - take deep breaths 16) Bake or cook - fresh made food = a bit happier (especially if you make something that you really like) I don't think we have instructions for progressive muscle relaxation posted yet, so here's a link: http://www.guidetopsychology.com/pmr.htm Basically you just tense a muscle group, hold, and then relax that muscle group, working through your body systematically. Some start with the feet, others with the hands or the head. Don't tense past the point of mild pain (I can want to overdo it). The directions above have good information, but don't go through each muscle group step by step, and are long. Here's another that is more printable. I suggest you read both and practice what seems to work best for you. http://webspace.ship.edu/cgboer/musclerelaxation.html http://www.selfinjury.org/docs/selfhelp.html If you scroll down a paragraph or two this page has lists of things to do instead of cut categorized by what you are feeling/reasons you want to cut. Don't know if this is already on the list.. I know it really helps me out when I want to cut... atleast to some extent. I wear a elastic around my wrist and so I snap it whenever I get that feeling. It has really saved me some scars. It inflicts that distracting somewhat twinge of pain without really doing anything wrong. Try doing a Soduku puzzle. That's a good one too. I do Sudoku puzzles when my brain gets stuck with whatever else I'm trying to do. You can do them online here: http://www.websudoku.com/ write all the feelings that I am having down on paper then I tear the paper up.. it works most of the time!
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. Hattie the black and white one wrestling with hazel, calico. lost hattie to cancer..... Happiness is a decision.... 150mg of lamictal 2x a day haldol 5mg 2x a day 1mg of cogentin 2x a day klonipin , 1mg at night I will not give up in this weight loss journey, nor this need to be AF. 3-19-13=156, 6-7-13=139, 8-19-13=149, 11-12-13=140, 6-28-14=157, 7-24-14=149, 9-24-14=144, 1-12-15=164, 2-28-15=149, 4-21-15=143, 6-26-15=138.5, 7-22-15=146, 8-24-15=151, 9-15-15=145, 11-1-15=137, 11-29-15=143, 1-4-16=152, 1-26-16=144, 2-24-16=150, 8-15-16=163, 1-4-17=169, 9-20-17=174, 11-17-17=185.6, 3-22-18=167.9, 8-31-18= 176.3, 3-6-19=190.8 5-30-20=176, 1-4-21=202, 10-4-21= 200.8,12-10-21=186, 3-26-22=180.3, 7-30-22=188, 10-15-22=180.9, |
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06-19-2008, 10:23 PM | #2 | |||
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Wow, Bizi! You've certain lived up to your name tonight!
Lots of good ideas in your post -- I should use them to avoid overeating. Congratulations on being "Ambien-free" for over a month now! Good for you!
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06-24-2008, 11:56 PM | #3 | |||
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Wisest Elder Ever
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time for a bump
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. Hattie the black and white one wrestling with hazel, calico. lost hattie to cancer..... Happiness is a decision.... 150mg of lamictal 2x a day haldol 5mg 2x a day 1mg of cogentin 2x a day klonipin , 1mg at night I will not give up in this weight loss journey, nor this need to be AF. 3-19-13=156, 6-7-13=139, 8-19-13=149, 11-12-13=140, 6-28-14=157, 7-24-14=149, 9-24-14=144, 1-12-15=164, 2-28-15=149, 4-21-15=143, 6-26-15=138.5, 7-22-15=146, 8-24-15=151, 9-15-15=145, 11-1-15=137, 11-29-15=143, 1-4-16=152, 1-26-16=144, 2-24-16=150, 8-15-16=163, 1-4-17=169, 9-20-17=174, 11-17-17=185.6, 3-22-18=167.9, 8-31-18= 176.3, 3-6-19=190.8 5-30-20=176, 1-4-21=202, 10-4-21= 200.8,12-10-21=186, 3-26-22=180.3, 7-30-22=188, 10-15-22=180.9, |
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06-26-2008, 09:51 PM | #4 | |||
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Wisest Elder Ever
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bump for girlie
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. Hattie the black and white one wrestling with hazel, calico. lost hattie to cancer..... Happiness is a decision.... 150mg of lamictal 2x a day haldol 5mg 2x a day 1mg of cogentin 2x a day klonipin , 1mg at night I will not give up in this weight loss journey, nor this need to be AF. 3-19-13=156, 6-7-13=139, 8-19-13=149, 11-12-13=140, 6-28-14=157, 7-24-14=149, 9-24-14=144, 1-12-15=164, 2-28-15=149, 4-21-15=143, 6-26-15=138.5, 7-22-15=146, 8-24-15=151, 9-15-15=145, 11-1-15=137, 11-29-15=143, 1-4-16=152, 1-26-16=144, 2-24-16=150, 8-15-16=163, 1-4-17=169, 9-20-17=174, 11-17-17=185.6, 3-22-18=167.9, 8-31-18= 176.3, 3-6-19=190.8 5-30-20=176, 1-4-21=202, 10-4-21= 200.8,12-10-21=186, 3-26-22=180.3, 7-30-22=188, 10-15-22=180.9, |
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