*Sigh* I can't take it, Jack and I were talking and he's brought up the point that Jackie will miss me too much for me to get home at ten pm. He's also said that Jackie would refuse to go to bed and would get up once I was home. It's just not going to work, so I am going to go tomorrow and thank them for the opportunity and say to hold my application and resume for if they need someone for first shift. Getting up at 5 am...Yeah I really wanna do that...*Sigh* Why didn't this get to work for me? I feel so stupid for even trying. I have been told that I am not using my head and that I need to put Jackie higher up my list of priorities...Needless to say I feel I did and this was just because someone doesn't want to cook or clean up after dinner.

I am so confused. I thought it was already in the dangerous realm for Jackie not to be placed. Also for his socialization, if you don't place him, I don't think you are doing him a favor and just are going to make it more difficult down the line for him to develop social skills. I am sorry for being so brunt.
It is a bad economy! If you found a job you like and if you get it, think hard.
I know all this is scary stuff and you are probably very ambivalent.
Bobby offering hugs

Pam I am sorry, please do not take offense at this but if the shoe were on the other foot would Jack have to stay home because Jackie would miss him too much? I highly doubt it. Stop letting Jack put this doubt in your head and manipulate you.

He does not want the responsibility to be on him. He cannot handle it. Get an aide, aren't you supposed to be getting one anyway? Tell him to go to work then, in the meantime you take that position and stop letting him manipulate you!!!!!!!

You can make this work for you. It is already working for you.

Quit listening to Jack. Jack wants everything to stay the same. He is afraid of change, of your being out of the house for any length of time, and afraid to deal with Jackie on his own.
Listen to yourself because you know what you want.

Jackie is very high on your list of priorities. That is one of the main reasons you went for this job -- so you can improve everyone's situation. Jackie needs to be placed.


Jackie will be fine as you take these steps.
M.

OMG will somebody drag her to that interview, I am trying to change her mind............

Does anyone live near her LOL???? If I had the money I would fly down.

(((((((pam))))))))

go to the interview. give it all you got. DO NOT say a word about possibly not excepting the position.

even if they offer you a job on the spot. kindly thank them for the opportunity, but you promised yourself you would think about any offer for 24 or 48 hours.

that will give you time to think. not be pressured by jack or anyone...not even yourself.

could you practise and go to your mom's during those "work" hours? see how everone does?

don't decide this right now. not a good thing when emotions run high.

actually if you get offered the job, maybe at first you should live at your mother's the first few weeks....I am afraid Jack will get worse-note not jackie
Bobby

I think it is a good idea to go to the interview and give it your best shot. Knock them over with how wonderful you are.
You will feel fantastic and I think that you need this kind of validation right now.

Later you can decide if you want this shift.
It does not make sense to withdraw from the job process at this point.

This is ONE step.
You don't have to think through everything.
Do this process of changing your life ONE step at time.

Mari

Christina,
I wish I could go get her. She lives far away but I could manage it if she contacted me.
Do you think that that would help?
M.