Hey everyone,

Just sitting here trying to get used to the new chair and setup it requires, meaning it's limitations. We have one bathroom I can't get into sadly. Oh well I need to get over it with caring that this is a heavyduty chair. I just do not like it. We'll see how horrible it's going to be with the anti-tippers....

other then that things are well, having this chair has colored my weekend. I wish I didn't feel so negative about chairs like this. I have had the ultralights for 21 years and Jack got me started on trying to get the wheelchair company to get me a heavy dutier chair because of jackie.

Well I got it.

Pam

Hoping you can find that over time the heavyduty chair is something
you can get used too.

Sending you hugs.

Donna

sending hugs to both of you today
((((pammy, donna)))))
bizi

i havent been around for a whilee.
everything has been more and more hectic till the other day i had a panic attack.

im slowly trying to get back into posting on here because i miss all of your support.

This weekend was a depressing one at our household. We had to hospitalize my neice for at least a month. I was there for a few hours this morning and will go back this evening for a couple more. Its really hard to step back and allow someone else to take over; but she/we need the help.

I just went and bought a bunch of stuff to make brownie banana splits for dinner. The other 3 kids need a pick me up pretty bad, and what better way to do that then a high calorie, unnutritional dinner. (and; to quote my favorite motto which I will be reciting during MY banana split......"if you are offended by the size of my ****; dont look!")

Hope everyone had a good weekend/monday.

Bobi,
Oh but banana splits are in fact nutritional -- if we only count the bananas!! And brownies have eggs, chocolate, oil -- all stuff that counts as real food.

Your other little ones will take a cue from your example and be ok with this because they see that you are handling the problem and that you did get immediate and comprehensive help for her.

This is comforting in away -- to see someone with serious needs get their needs met.

This is a terrible thing for me to say, but maybe it will be easier in the house for a few weeks with just three of them there.
And maybe they could use this break too.

Have they gotten to see her in the hospital or talk to her on the phone yet? Maybe after her first week (or whenever you or the docs think it is appropriate), then can see / hear for themselves that she is in the best place for the circumstances.

Maybe they can make some homemade cards/letter for her.
Can she get e-mail soon?

I think that cooking works for you.
Take the three of them on a picnic this weekend. Let them help plan the menu.
Ok. Never mind.

Are you working during this time?
I imagine that it is hard to have a family member in the hospital while trying to keep everything else running.


Mari

They will all see her tomorrow night for the family night (once a week). We all get to participate in a family counseling session, and then will have an hour to visit and play a game.

I felt bad saying it too; but its already calmer at home. The other kids realise she needed to go and are ok with it (they know the basics of what happened, but the counselor will address it more in depth tomorrow night with everyone there.) And honestly, everyone (including my neice) needed a break. Hopefully things will be easier to address once she gets back home. Thats one thing I wouldn't trade about our household. Because we have a HUGE amount of quirks, DX's, and personal history everyone is extremely supportive of each other. (they get on each others nerves and fight like cats and dogs at times, but they never hold a grudge and are always willing to jump in and support whatever anyone is dealing with)

The cards are a good idea! Since the kids will only see each other once a week I will have the other 3 write her a note or make a card and deliver them to her (and vice versa). They would all enjoy that. And the picnic is brilliant. We were going to take them fishing this weekend - but we could all cook up a huge basket of food to take with us. (Cooking does work for me....so does eating it )

The pdoc is going to try some new medication - and now the focus of therapy can be focused more appropriately. Thats the silver lining of the situation I suppose.

And as for banana splits being healthy, I am SO glad! (I may have possibly eaten 3 of them, and the kids munched on the brownies after they had devoured the icecream and toppings lol.)

Dear Bobi,
You and your family are going to be ok.
Mari

I believe you and your family are doing things the best you can.

I also believe they can handle this with all the love you have for them.

Sending hugs and love.

Donna

Bobi,
'Hoping that the family night went well and that you are holding up.
Mari